What Do You Do When Every Part Of You Hurts?

[Heather]

The last few days have been excruciatingly painful. All I do is cry. My therapist says I need to get out of the house and distract myself but the thought of being around other people when I feel so shitty, is more than I can take.

What do you do when every part of your being hurts and all you want to do is hide from the world? I hurt all of me hurts. And theres nothing that anybody can do about it to make it stop.

What have other people done when they're in this much pain that they've found helpful to lessen the hurt?

 

[cat]

Hi Heather
I think I understand how you are feeling. I went through this about 2yrs ago, everything was just so confusing & i felt so alone thinking that there would be no end to it.
My psych advised me to find a jacuzzi or hot tub & sit in it for at least 10mins & to bath every day as many times as i wanted to. I have to say I just couldnt understand how doing that would help but after my first visit to a spa i felt so much relief, the warmth of the water was like being hugged without having to make contact with others.
Over the following months i spent many a day at the spa & found it especially helpful after therapy.

 

[Heather]

Thanks cat. I really like that idea. just thinking about surrounding myself with warm water makes me feel comforted. thank you so much. I think I will try it.

 

[KP the nut]

The last few days have been excruciatingly painful. All I do is cry. My therapist says I need to get out of the house and distract myself but the thought of being around other people when I feel so shitty, is more than I can take.

I saw my T yester day. I am turning into a recluse.

I have sat with the phone by my side since 11am (now 2.50pm) trying to phone a friend and neighbour (so driving no excuse this time) to arrange to visit for coffee.

I then read your post. We can do this. I love the idea of bathing:). OK, I'm going to phone her now.

DONE IT:D Going on Monday am.

Try small steps, let me know how you get on.

Take care (((HUGS)))
KP

 

[cat]

Well done you two for not doing as I did at this suggestion! I initially said 'but I dont like bathing I prefer to shower' to which my T said ' I cannot work with you if you are not going to even try' Opps, that was me told off, being defeated before I had even started! But she knew what she was talking about & I had to at least give it a try.

I do hope you find some benefit in going to a spa or even just going to a swimming pool & sitting in the shallow end. I found it helped so much I bought a hot-tub, i wouldnt be without it now.

Have fun!!

 

[Heather]

Thank you both. KP you hang in there. I hope you have a good time having coffee. Let me know how it goes.

 

[KP the nut]

Just got back from having coffee. Yeah I did it. I had put it off as my neighbour lost her gorgeous Irish Wolfhound at the end Nov and I hadn't seen her since. She has 2 other dogs an Irish Wolfhound and a Briard.
Anyway I went around, the dogs were pleased to have a visitor. We had a good chat, we talked about her old dog, she cried, I cried and we hugged.
I explained about becoming a recluse and how hard it had been to pick up the phone. She also likes time on her own and doesn't see a lot of people.
She like me is trying to lose weight. We both have ulcerative colitis and steroids have agravated my weight problem. I mentioned I was aiming to go to aqua aerobics when classes start again in a couple of weeks and she is thinking of coming with me.
Small steps, one thing at a time.

 

[cat]

Well done KP, I knew you could do it! (((Hugs)))

As you say small steps, wish we lived nearer each other, I'd come to aeroics too.

Take care x

 

[cat]

Heather

Another thing I've found helpful is an electric blanket. My psych suggests that when I'm feeling down or triggered I wrap up in a blanket or go to bed with electric blanket on for an hour or two but no more. Its amazing how much better it can make you feel, another way of being hugged, & for me a way to sooth my 'inner child'

Hope thats helpful. Take care x

 

[Heather]

Good for you KP you go girl!!!!! I should get out of the house too. I might be. My friend has recommended me for a receptioninst job where she works:p I actually filled out the app. had the phone interview and if I passed the online test (we'll see) then I'll go in for the final interview.

 

[cat]

well done Heather, I hope the job works out for you.

 

[Heather]

Thanks Cat. I guess it'll be good to get out of the house we'll see