What Does "love" Mean To You?

[mamachick]

Freak of nature, you are a lucky woman. I use to think that having someone love me would be the best thing. I now know that I am most greatful for the love that I felt for another. With ptsd, it is very difficult to love (besides out children)

A couple of years ago I gave it a chance and allowed that love into my life. I opened myself up to feel again and I felt everything. When you allow yourself to feel like that, there is a impulse to numb it when it gets too strong or you feel the fear that is normal for ptsd.

When he held me, when I was close to him, when I heard his words, I felt so loved. He turned out to be a liar and a con man. Left me feeling unlovable. I don't know how to love without trusting. My gut told me not to trust him. So was it love? His actions showed love. Yet love is not full of lies, unless you have been abused and are more tolerant to unacceptable behaviors. I would rather die alone. In my world, there must be trust to love.

 

[anthony]

Love to me is all the little stuff I really like....

 

[Tim McDonough]

Seems the only time I smile like that is when Bailey is loving me. Love is looking into those big beautiful brown eyes and knowing what they mean and say:

First I forgive you no matter how bad your day is or how crappy you feel or what you cant forgive yourself for Second I understand you can cry all you want "forgive me for what I've done over there "- I already have
Third I will never abandon or turn on you.
I swear this Bond-It is unconditional cause even on the days you feel like being pissed at the world - I still loves you with all my heart mind body and soul.

 

[KP the nut]

Love is:
My beautiful boys!

They are lovely, you should be v proud.

 

[amethist]

We have a cat who looks deep into my husbands soul when he is ill.

No matter how ill my husband gets, our cat will sit with him for hours when I am out. Tapping him until he strokes her, and keeping watch over him, until he responds.

Then go do her own thing once I am home again.

You cannot teach a cat to love anyone, they do it through choice. I am glad she chose to love my husband as she does.

How can you repay that love, when you can't put a price on it.

 

[Nicolette]

Love to me is kindness, respect, honesty, acknowledgment of who the other person is and acceptance of that (warts and all), being there when needed, a kiss, a touch, a hug, remembering the things which are important to the other person and thoughtfulness all rolled into one.

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes, I agree with Nicolette, that who or what is important to someone you love should be important to you too.

 

[0neHuMbLeHeArT]

Love is patient, love is kind, love is family.

 

[freakofnurture]

When he held me, when I was close to him, when I heard his words, I felt so loved. He turned out to be a liar (...) In my world, there must be trust to love.

Feeling loved is the mistake - or so my complex trauma tells me. Never think you're receiving love. Be content with giving it. Give until you're empty. That's all you're good for. You little freak of nurture.

Love is a way to spill your insides with grace and style.

EDIT:

Love (...) is family.

You're lucky.

 

[LovinHuggin]

I read posts about people being so in love that they have to be with someone all the time and can't bare to be apart from them and that it's such a strong feeling. I don't think I'd want to feel like that because it would physically ache too much. I think love is being in his arms and when he kisses me on the head and when he does household things when I'm feeling squiffy. Also when he forgives my melt downs and tries to understand my state of mind.
I thought I was in love with another guy who said so many nice things to me so strongly but it turned out he didn't mean any of it and told me to forget about him. I was all 'everything will work out fine' and he said I had rose tinted specs.
I don't trust easily and get very jealous and insecure at times, I guess snuggling up into his arms makes me feel so good.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think love is also timeless.

 

[freakofnurture]

Love gives you eagle eyes for the good, cute, kind, soft, beautiful, admirable, strong and human things in your loved one.