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With all respect I've asked for help not for critisizing me. I clearly said that her behaviour consists not only from behaviour of person with ptsd. She fears to be intimate with me and to talk directly to me and that is a big problem. Please understand me, it's been already months of this, I know what I'm saying, instead of judging me or what I tell if You understand how difficult it is I'm asked for help. Believe me, don't you know such rule for example if a person wants to commit a suicide never critisize him/her and listen. I written this rule as an example so you will understand that this is is a real problem. I don't want to write everything about her publicly here. It's like if you will ask to tell her name in here. Believe me that she loves me and she clearly shown me this, she actually replies to me but not directly and that is a problem. If to view a problem only from one side while it is complex only part of the problem will be solved and everything else will be uncured. Don't you know such things as fear of public speaking when you can't say a word or fear of writing when you write a book but you can't write anything like something inside you blocks you from doing such actions. Understand that she was in love and trusted her ex not seeing clear signs that he abused her and that she continue such relationship for 5 years. Don't you know how women get attached to the person they love? She lost all her trust in loving someone, she fears to open her heart, when she become rude that are clearly flashbacks of her past. She learns to love again like if she never knew how it is to love because of her ex behaviour. Imagine that you have lost ability to move and after years you regain this ability and need to learn to walk, to jump, to move your head, to run. Will you be able to run like professional sportsmen right after that? Please don't make it harder for me. I've asked for help.
