General What If Seeing The Therapist Is A Trigger All On Its Own?

[j doe]

Thanks, Jibber. It does help to know this. You sound a lot like her in this regard. It's not particularly encouraging to know that it sometimes takes a breakdown to finally convince someone they need more help than they are getting, but it does help to know. She's really good at covering up and pushing the emotions down, so it's not clear what it would take short of breaking down to get her to go to regular therapy. She even has a friend with similar issues who recently split with her husband, lost her house, broke down and had to quit school and working, was emergency admitted to the psychiatric ward, and had to move back in with her mother. If there is any any way to get her to see any of this to maybe cut it off before it happens, I would do it. I'm really at my wit's end here.

 

[Mrs. T]

Thank you to those that replied recently. I haven't been on here much lately and I think I have been forgetting some things in a way. I have been getting comfortable with how things are with H...and dealing with other issues outside of H and PTSD. He is wonderful at hiding his emotions. He admits that he has no outlet for his emotions and they are building up inside him. This worries me. What will happen when he can't take it anymore? He is doing all he can to improve as a husband and father, and maybe he feels that if these things are good then he doesn't have to worry about his mental health...because he really has very little hope for himself and his future (though he also hides this quite well).

Now I know why he has always been so against therapy and has always said how he doesn't understand how it could work. Guess it's easier to be a nonbeliever then a believer and have to face the past.

On a bright side, he went out for coffee with my dad at his request, one day, and said all he did was talk to him about himself. Don't know what they talked about but I am just happy he feels able to confide in my dad. And he has been opening up to me and telling me some more about his own dad (one of his trauma's being the abuse from his dad). So maybe this is a tiny bit of an outlet?