What Is The One Thing You Wish People Knew/ Understood About Ptsd Or Trauma?

[melody]

Sorry, I wrote my list as if I was talking to non-PTSD people in my life, I hope I didn't upset anyone.

PP, absolutely agree with you with your additions!

No offence taken PTSD sufferer, I think I kind of did the same lol!

 

[starrynight]

I think of complex trauma as the multi-dimensional, chronic childhood abuse that takes place continually and repeatedly throughout the key developmental phases of a child's life.

I don't know if this is the way I can respond to "what I wish people would know- about CPTSD" I just want to thank you for explaining the many facets of CPTSD. I had no idea of the complexity and the ongoing pain of those suffering from CTSB. This seems like important information. Is there some way to file this so that future members of this Forum can access it? You explained CPTSD so well. I wish you the best.

With Love, Starrynight

 

[starrynight]

Dear timetorecover, You are right, " Everyone IS different and has had DIFFERENT EXPERIENCES." Please know that NO ONE'S experience minimizes what you have experienced.

I am a new member. What I have read in this forum thus far, has helped me to realize the many different types and causes of PTSD. The responses that are given to anyone 'in need' or 'in pain' , are always supportive and helpful. The people who are members, and the people who have joined the Staff, seem
to be very caring.

What you have shared, shows that you already have strengths and important awarenesses.
1. YOU HAVE WISDOM: "Everyone is different and has had different experiences."

2. YOU ARE NOT IN DENIAL: "I am a victim of shock and trauma."

3. YOU HAVE AWARENESS: "I am unwell and need to get better." (someday you might say,"I need help
to get better. None of us can do it alone. And that's O.K.)

4. YOU ARE HONEST ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS: "grrr I CANNOT CONTROL MY SYMPTOMS grrr"

5. YOU HAVE STATED IMPORTANT KNOWLEDGE, (knowledge that those suffering from sexual and/or physical assault should embrace and shout from the hillside!!!!!)

IT'S NOT MY FAULT !!!
6. YOU HAVE INSPIRED ME !!!! THANK YOU.
Dedicated To: timetorecover and all who read her story.
Keep trying to reach out, expressing what is bothering you. Explaining how the 'pain' inside feels and how it is affecting you. What you write will be read, your story will be believed.

Much Love, starrynight

 

[popeye]

I wish people would not automatically assume I have combat PTSD. I wish they would understand that just because I have PTSD it does not mean that I will snap and go on a killing spree. I wish people would not look at me as if I am damaged goods and not to be trusted. I wish that just for 5 minutes in a persons life they would experience what I do on a daily basis just so they would understand why I am the way I am.

Boy this is a whole lot tougher question to answer than I originally thought when I started writing this post.

 

[bittersweet]

I wish people could understand that the simple things in life aren't so simple for sufferers. Going for a ride on a bus or train is terrifying, getting a new job jus makes you want to break down and die from the stress and even sleep is something we fear. It isn't something "normals" have to deal with so our reactions as sufferers seem ludicrous to them. We don't ask to be this way and we sure as hell don't enjoy it. I wish people knew just exactly what we had to go through for just one day. I'm not crazy I'm just broken

 

[timetorecover]

The dark circles under my eyes are not because I am a party animal, its because I spend the hours of darkness crying and trying to sleep:notworthy:

I do not want to have this frown on my face, I want to smile but it hurts to smile.

I am not a bad person, I am just being a bitch cos nobody gets me!

 

[melody]

As I continue to read the posts to this thread, you all make me want to reach out and hug you! Not only because my heart hurts for you, but because it makes me realize that amongst each other, we are normal. :inlove:

 

[Zef]

I wish people would not feel hurt when my symptoms kick it and effects them in some way. That is when I really wish I could explain in some way that they would understand. . .and it is mostly the little things that are the worst.

I refuse to have dinner with someone because I have food issues and I don't want to hurt their feelings by not eating their stuff.

I don't call you because I have serious phone issues, it's not because I don't like you.

I don't have small talk with you because I literally can't (my brain locks up) not because I'm an asshole.

 

[heidi]

I just wish people would understand what works for them, doesn't work for me.
tangent... I still feel like the psychiatric industry isn't in the mind of a sufferer.

 

[cjf2010]

I wish more people would understand that a sufferer cannot control what triggers they have and how it makes them react at the split second something sets it off.

 

[misaB823]

I personally wish people in my life, or who want to be in my life, should know that I'm not a broken individual, yes I have scars, yes the things that gave them to me some people would consider "bad," no i will not just spill it i dont like talking about it, and NO YOU CANNOT SAVE ME. There is nothing worse in this life than feeling like a pathetic charity case people feel sorry for. I understand many guys have the "superman" complex that makes them think a female who they think is destressed cannot live another minute without them swooping in and saving them from "the horror." Its just funny, because I wanna just say "Dude if you've seen what I've seen, been through what I've been through you'd probably wet yourself and run very very fast."

 

[heidi]

I wish people understood that there is a definite distinction between having a thought, attitude, view or emotion, & having a PTSD reaction.

Well said. I need to commit this to memory.