What Is Your Attachment Style?

[watundah]

Interesting. Thanks for posting.

Secure with my partner. The other 3 landed me as fearful. I thought I would rock the avoidant category.

 

[Kintsugi]

I think my attachment is disorganized.

Something I'll throw in the mix here is that I think my mother f*cked up in terms of my developing a secure attachment, but I think it was truly jacked because my main source of comfort/companionship/authority/lots-o-shit was my brother, who is my abuser (incest). Will have to note this idea more clearly to my T, although I'd say we begun skimming this general idea last session.

 

[jaccat]

Thanks for the link Dogwood tree, that was interesting. I came out as fearful, although I had two scores in the fearful/avoidant column and two as dismissive/avoidant. Depends who the relationship is with (for one the fearful score was the sensible option).

 

[seedling]

Secure in all but my mother - no surprise there but interesting to see it charted. Fearful/anxiety with her.

 

[oasis2003]

In the quiz it was interesting my father and husband were secure and psychologically opposing to my mother and female relationships in my mind.

 

[Stickler]

Fearful/ avoidant, but I knew that.

 

[The Albatross]

Ambivalent/Anxious for me however I seem to have somehow avoided to a significant degree the pitfalls in this article about how it manifests in adulthood (abandonment)... most of the other stuff is pretty spot on. I am oddly though ambivalent and on the re-read there other aspects that don't particularly apply in the article below to me either... but if you only have 4 "shoe sizes"... a goodly number of people will not be a good/true/correct fit.

Distrustful is a big aspect, as I keep people "at arms length" typically or become uncomfortable. Close enough to interact, far enough away to run or defend myself. http://www.psychalive.org/understanding-ambivalent-anxious-attachment/

 

[Ellabella44]

Fearful / avoidant. Not much of a surprise there. In secure range with my husband and a sister in law. My former best friend left me when I was at my worst during my breakdown. I'd not replaced her in my mind with anyone else. So I chose my sister in law who is with my brother. She has helped me a lot through my alcoholism and journey to recovery.

I hadn't thought of her as a best friend before the test. I guess she is now, even though I now see a best friend as a position of abandonment.

 

[watundah]

Forwarded the link to my partner to take the test Also a PTSD survivor who likes to think she's further along on the road to recovery (though I disagree). I think it will be interesting for us to sit down and see how our scores compare. She is the anxious type. Our relationship is full of complex dynamics, but we've just celebrated 20 years.

 

[oasis2003]

hi @The Albatross that was an interesting link thanks for putting on :)

 

[oasis2003]

Hi @watundah
Congratulations for 20 years :) to me all different relationships are complex:laugh:

 

[KwanYingirl]

As an adult: fearful-avoidant. I can only guess that as an infant I was secure.