What Makes You Angry Today?

[Chin Strapped]

I hate feeling detached from my own life. Got my lovely young family surrounding me and I feel it's not mine sometimes. Currently trying to come out of a hole I've been in for a week.

Bloody Boston bombings triggered this I think. So sensitive.

 

[JarHed]

Bloody Boston bombings triggered this I think. So sensitive.

I know it's not a help but I'm there as well. It's just makes me feel even more vulnerable, which is true. There's just no way to prepare or fight something like this. I had a group the day after and everyone was feeling this way. Times the factor as with all this stuff. You don't forget but you try to learn how to move on. A recurring theme for us.

Maybe the best way to help yourself is to engage with your own life. Go out and enjoy something you like, talk to your friends, enjoy the day. Switch gears, just remember to use the clutch first.

 

[Chin Strapped]

You're right, you can't prepare for the likes of terrorism. I bet the general public would not even consider how something like the Boston bombings can effect those who were not even there, especially us. Glad to hear I'm not alone, Media seems to be one of my biggest triggers.

I watched a documentary called Armadillo; Danish troops in Afghanistan. It was fantastic, but I nearly broke watching it and needless to say, it had some lasting effects, sleep issues etc.

Decided to go swimming to ease my mind and it worked a bit. Just having a bit of a downer. Apparently I don't have depression, as I get up to go to work and Uni all the time; didn't make it today though! Got a date with my shrink tomorrow.

I do need to make sure I remember to change gear, or I'll end up frantically filling my day with endless crap like I used to! Used to be a running joke with my Ex, I never sat still. We're divorced now and I replaced her!;)

 

[Wagon]

Yeah. I don't watch the war stuff so much anymore. It's really not like I need to go hunting around for triggers.

Swimming is golden for me. Great stuff. Seems to drown the beast, at least for some hours.

 

[Chin Strapped]

It's really not like I need to go hunting around for triggers.

Fair point.

As for swimming, it is now on my schedule each week, time permitting. Just hope I don't have to look at old men in speedos, that's enough to trigger a spell of poor mental health for anyone:ROFLMAO:

 

[JarHed]

Just hope I don't have to look at old men in speedos, that's enough to trigger a spell of poor mental health for anyone:ROFLMAO:

I sure hope I'm not one of those. :ROFLMAO:

If not now, sad to say someday. :cry: I won't wear a speedo, I have more pride than that. :rolleyes:

 

[Barberian]

Swim NEKID! (then no one has to see you in speedos) :ROFLMAO:

 

[Chin Strapped]

Speedos, aka 'budgie smuglers' = old skool or sex pest;)

All jokes aside, I'm going to step up the swimming, need to find something to help me unwind. I now realise how sh*t I have been with helping myself, when I look at you lot talking about your combat ptsd. I'm doing therapy but it's personal research, peer support and self awareness that will win.

Angry at my wasted efforts; damn I have a long way to go...

 

[Spock]

Everyone is always suggesting Yoga, it was part of our outpatient program. You get the stretching and exercise with deep breathing and relaxation.

 

[Chin Strapped]

Yeah that was mentioned to me by a therapist about a year ago. If I'm honest I dismissed it, mainly because I'm a busy bloke. I now realise I should have listened.

I'm starting to spark since I've been on this site, time to sort it out properly. I almost accepted that it was normal to feel terrible here and there, who needs coping mechanisms? ha!...Me.

How was yoga for you?

Also, anyone respond well to EMDR? Another therapy I did not really gel with. I struggle to open up/relax with psychologists, which I now understand is not un-common.

 

[JarHed]

Angry at my wasted efforts; damn I have a long way to go...

Don't be angry, you realized something and that's a big step forward. And, it's a journey not a destination. As had been suggested, find something that helps you relax. Swimming great, any exercise where deep breathing is involved really helps. Yoga is super. I do Tai Chi myself. The idea is to find something the YOU like and will continue with.

I'll also mention that the more you delve into your problems the more problems there will be, at least at first. It does get better with time, better is the optimal word. Therapy gives you a tool box to help through the rough times as well as exploring those things that got you there in the first place. The idea is to keep at it.

 

[Spock]

Yeah that was mentioned to me by a therapist about a year ago. If I'm honest I dismissed it, mainly because I'm a busy bloke. I now realise I should have listened.

I'm starting to spark since I've been on this site, time to sort it out properly. I almost accepted that it was normal to feel terrible here and there, who needs coping mechanisms? ha!...Me.

How was yoga for you?

Also anyone respond well to EMDR? Another therapy I did not really gel with. I struggle to open up to psychologists, which I now understand is not un-common.

DM...I think Yoga is perfect for us but I don't get to it enough so at a minimum I try to do my own short relaxation/stretching/calm music routine. Also, I'm older so workouts require more stretching which Yoga certainly does. You can get DVDs to turn your TV into a private intructor if you want to squeeze it in at home and save time. Obviously, that way, you can select what your instructor looks like as well but I digress <wink>

Not familiar with EMDR but it sounds similar to some focused computer stuff we tried without the eye movement aspect. There are a lot of things one can do on your own, at home even:

1. Exercise of course is highly important
2. Guided Imagery (available thru iTunes, etc.)
3. Yoga
4. Deep Breathing/Relaxation alone
5. Massage Therapy
6. Music
7. Art
8. Writing/Journaling

It can feel good to just journal out a poem-like rant to purge anger and express it.

I get tweaked just thinking about holding in pain...I had delayed onset and no clue about PTSD so I carried pain, ignored triggers (didn't even know the term) and internalized anger for several years until migraines became a horrible daily torture and I finally had a grand mal seizure. So, yeah...get it out, work it out, purge the demons as often as possible.

Stay safe, stay strong brother...