What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[per aspera ad astra]

As a survivor of my childhood, I hated so many of these I've read here. "Just get over it, it is all in your head!" I also was told:
You've got to let it go! You are your own worst enemy. If you just set your mind to it, or were just motivated enough.

Sure I just love hanging onto pain and anguish, reaching out for help again, and again, and .... I enjoy unpredictable performance in life, and reliving the past, of course I keep trying 'be successful' with self-defeating behaviors planned at top on my to do list.... NOT.

 

[AngelaMarie]

When someone who helped cause your PTSD says: Well I have decided to not live in the past.

 

[Taven Carlsen]

When someone who helped cause your PTSD says: Well I have decided to not live in the past.

Heh, that's the expected reaction so I try to not even talk about what happened. One time during The Crazy Times my mother complained that I never talked to her, and that was so ridiculous that I complained back at her about (whatever her latest crazy fit was). She mocked me with, "Build a bridge... *dramatic hand gesture* and geeeet over it!"

(In case that story doesn't make sense, that's what I'm trying to say: She didn't make any damn sense.)

 

[Hashi]

someone who helped cause your PTSD says: Well I have decided to not live in the past.

Oh, I don't doubt it. If I was in their position I'd be staying as far away from the past as I could get too. Unfortunately you can't alter the truth, but you've got to give them credit for trying.

 

[Squaddiedave]

Also a survivor of my child hood and your right, a lot of people involved try to ulter the truth. Confronted the person responsible for causing me hell, and he denied everything, "no your wrong, it didn't happen like that" really?

 

[Red Feather]

T: "You are behaving like a little girl!...Why?"

Me (thinking): Uh let me think, because I feel threatened by you? And you are very agressive?

T: "You are completely psychiatrised!"

Me: (thinking) Okay, so now he thinks I want to be this way. :mad:

 

[iMPACTt43w0r1d]

"What're you depressed about now?" (pretends he's cutting his wrists)
............. -___-

"Stop being so depressed. I don't like you being so depressed. Snap out of it" (Totally in my face)
................................... -_____- ...............

"*mockingly* OOOOOHHHH LIFE SUUUCKS I'm GOING TO KILL MYSELF!!!"

Me: Alright you POS. Listen here. I'm not having a good day. Leave me alone, or you're gonna end up hospitalized and then you'll understand what its like to have PTSD........:mad:

"Woah caaalm down bro. jeez"

Me: -__- I will end you

*sigh* people now a days...
I never acted physically towards him. Or anyone. Just sometimes...ugh I wish...

 

[Squaddiedave]

Snap out of it, that's deffo in the top ten! Do you not think if I could, I WOULD!

 

[wife of]

Anything that sounds remotely like "wow you are all here on one forum...a bit like a zoo..post me you experiances so I cn study you for personal gain in my career".

It would be much better recieved if these numptys stated thier intentions for initiating some real practical help in the future!

 

[per aspera ad astra]

And from my now ex T "you know, as long as you let it [my childhood] bother you ...." He SOOOOOOO just doesn't f***ing get it. I don't know why I bother try to explain there was no "letting" involved. This is why I am starting with a real trauma T tomorrow. Geesh.

 

[NarcSis]

"why do you have PTSD, certainly that one trauma isn't enough to cause this."

- stress is additive stupid. Repeated exposure to critical incidents over years can break even the strongest person.

"Other people like you don't have PTSD..."

- no one really knows why one person gets traumatized and another in the same situation doesn't, they can only speculate and theorize.

Oh and the real kicker,

"I went through X trauma and I got over it, look at me, I'm fine so I don't get why you're not getting better."

- not even going to dignify that with a response. Grrrrrrrr.

 

[Anna]

Don't you think your overreacting?

Let's just forget about now

Get over it

*Sighs*

those really wind me up.

or when people compare stuff that happened to them like it is some kind of sick competition and talk down to you like you are nothing... gah