What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[Ice_Fire]

Oh no! How could she say that? Maybe it's her guilt trip. Sorry to hear that. ((((hugs))))

I don't know how or why she could say it. I guess she doesn't believe how bad it was after all. I feel sick now, wish I hadn't eaten tea. Totally ruined today, which was really nice, being out with her. Why is it whenever something good happens, something bad is right behind it? What did I do for that to happen every single f*ing time? :-(

 

[Red Feather]

I am guessing she feels bad and guilty for the way she raised him and so she's discrediting it, even it might be unconscious and only through side comments like that one. She probably wants to ease her guilt issues. My mom does it all the time. Side comments can be the worst and most triggering things though!!

Thinking about you IceFire. Hope you are okay.

 

[KP the nut]

(((Ice Fire))), yes, I caught that on the news just before I switched off. I don't often watch the news.

 

[Muzikluvr]

I guess she doesn't believe how bad it was after all.

My abuse was minimized too, and consequently, I lived a double life. I believed that I had never been abused, that I lived a charmed life, that I had everything anyone else would want... but for some reason, I was too complacent, or too spoiled to make anything of myself, and after ALL my family had given me. It took me a long time to validate the abuse as "bad enough". My family, STILL doesn't believe that. One cousin of mine asked me "but it was just that one time, right?"... well, I didn't respond to her that "NO, it wasn't just that one time"... because, isn't once enough?

 

[krikkit]

My family knows that I abused sleeping pills and alcohol to numb myself out in the past and literally slept for 18 hours a day because I didn't want to feel my symptoms. I eventually managed to quit. During that time that I was abusing, though, my sister's fiancee decided to give me this helpful advice:

"If you want to be a druggie and just ruin your life, you don't have to make up some dumb reason why."

He didn't offer advice or support or anything. Just accused me of faking my symptoms because I wanted an excuse to be blacked out for days at a time. Unhealthy coping skills shouldn't be encouraged - but accusing me of inventing my flashbacks and anxiety and agoraphobia because I wanted to be high?

Because we all know black, dreamless sleep is the best high you can get :O_o:

 

[Nadege]

Oh, and "You are an ancient soul." What the Fck is that?

Huh? I don't get this one either.

 

[Stephanieg]

Sorry to be you,liar from my Uncle Louie although he is in prison

 

[Indifferent]

This is my favorite thread I've discovered so far!

Recently for me is:

"(you) better get your shit together then" Hah. Thanks as@ho&$. That's kind of the idea!
"get'er done". Are you serious? Cause I'm not already trying and rather choose to be this big eff'n mess......

 

[jeeps for now]

" I don't believe you"

 

[Indifferent]

"You're manipulating me"

 

[Mica]

"For it to have gone on for so long, you must have enjoyed it" said by my now ex husband

 

[Nadege]

" why do you wake up in a pissy ass attitude?

That's EXACTLY the kind of attitude I had today when I woke up and for the rest of the day. Thanks to your Mom for giving it a perfect name!