Yeah, the "just get over it" is the one I have playing in my mind mostly. I heard my father say it quite a bit. I no longer listen to my father (I am, after all, 40!), but I sometimes still miss the idea of having an earthly father. I try and rely on my Heavenly Father, which is sometimes actually scarier and harder to do. I tend to be a realist, not abstractive; I like predictability, not utter lack of control; and I like things that I can relate to and figure out; so, the whole God thing is tough for me to grasp, but I keep pursuing it thinking that it has merit. If nothing else my faith (what there is of it!) has given me even more compassion (for other at least) and has helped me along the path of forgiveness. Again, mostly for others, but I am moving closer to being able to forgive myself as well.
