What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[DharmaGirl]

Thank goodness my T convinced me that therapy was my job now, and that I am working. He's a good guy.

 

[Pencil]

Thank goodness my T convinced me that therapy was my job now, and that I am working. He's a good guy.

Monster, will you tell your T that I love him? :)

I do freelance work (and never meet my clients :tup:). At first I thought I could not afford therapy, and then looked at it differently - I started seeing my work as a means to an end - a way to afford therapy. And so I realised that I simply have to put in more hours and earn the extra money I need for therapy. In other words, it is an investment in my career. Yet I sort of thought I was rationalising the whole thing
, and that I could NOT really afford it. Your post makes me realise I'm on the right track and that I should keep at it. I love you and your T!

 

[Whitneys story]

Can't you just be normal?'

My response, This is and you would know this if you did not get your credentials out of a box of cracker jacks! Flapping lips are generally detached from the brain!

 

[Katz2]

LOL I like that one Whitneys

 

[Whitneys story]

Great thread! I feel a group hug is due. This hug will send the invalidation back to the senders.

)((((((((((((For those who accept them))))))))))))(

 

[Katz2]

:hug: back to you :) Whitneys

 

[Whitneys story]

I dunno, people can't win with me eh :rolleyes:

(((((Shellbell)))))
Win for yourself, those of value will have new eyes! Hugs, Whitney

 

[Shellbell]

Thanks Whitney Hugs to you too (((((hugs))))).

Sadly, my pastor was telling the truth in what he said. My history is the worst of anyone he has known, I asked him about it yesterday. He has heard and seen a lot being a former cop as well, he just wanted to let me know he did understand how bad it was. I think it was just hard hearing that, as it reinforced to me just how bad it was, how messed up I am and how much work in T I have to do and how long it will take.

 

[Whitneys story]

I think it was just hard hearing that,

Yes it would be very hard to hear, maybe too much at once. If you can break down the emotions of the moment and process them individually it might help. Validation can be just as stinging as invalidation as it
can bring up more than we ever thought we were looking for.

Please take some well deserved "me" time. The greatest part of the forum is just around the corner is someone to help us through. You have achieved a lot recently and yes this will take time. Hugs, Whitney:)

 

[Shellbell]

Thanks Whitney, I really appreciate that. I am becoming more aware of how much time it will take and I have to be okay with that.

Hugs to you too :hug:

 

[Tanishq]

I hope you no longer feel bad over what they said.

I am moving on. Every day it's effect is lessening. Britt, thank you for showing understanding and words. It helps.

 

[Tanishq]

Oh one more "I knew someone like you, they just cried ALL the time"!!!!

As a little toddler, I was labeled as crybaby. A boy who cries a lot and therefore ignore him. I remember vaguely I was crying because something was wrong with me. I was crying because I was in lots of continuous pain, I didn't know how to verbalize them. I was asking for some help and did most of time. I cried most of time against my bio mother and got rejected many times. She used to tell me she is tired of me. I know very well, she never tried to help me and she was saying she is tired of me.

This hug will send the invalidation back to the senders.

:D Thank you whitney. Your hug indeed wipes out their negativity. I now understand it is okay that someone can have no clue what's going on with others. Perhaps they may have no clue what's going on with them.

:hug: back at you.