What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[Pencil]

. Okay, she responded

Britt, that made me laugh out loud - thanks for that!

I'm seeing a new T on Tuesday, let's hope and wait and see ....

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[Katz2]

The best one I got was "theres nothing wrong with you"
yes thats right I'm just sooo good at hiding it!!!! I wonder what I would look like if all my problems did show up on me!!!

 

[DharmaGirl]

and stop going to T

I've heard that. Don't read therapy books, read romances.

just want to fix you

I feel that way. "You need to get out more and do things. Don't think about that stuff. Don't you remember the good things?" Meh

 

[Katz2]

I have heard you need to get a life and you must be really lonely.....yeah thanks

 

[DharmaGirl]

WTF??!!!"

When I think about my young childhood, that is all I can think of. I will add that to my scrapbook.

"Why do you scrapbook such horrid things?" Because they happened, and I am exposing them.

 

[Pencil]

'You should get out more'

'Stop being so impatient!!!!'

'Can't you just be normal?'

 

[Katz2]

I have to say, I'm having a wee chuckle to myself with some of these.

Oh one more "I knew someone like you, they just cried ALL the time"!!!!

 

[DharmaGirl]

its my way of dealing with wanting to feel good about myself and telling myself I am okay

Oh, Mandy, I have been through that. I was applying for all sorts of jobs that I knew I wasn't ready for. I also could not reconcile the old me with the new me. I have been in therapy for a year now and I realize there will always be job opportunites and that therapy is what I need now. It's working for me, I hope you can find something that will work for you too.

 

[BellaLuna]

This was written in sarcasm.

Ever had a comment made by a family member/ friend/ coworker/ stranger that was just counterproductive/unrealistic/unsupportive? I'm sure you have, as we all have experienced our families' and friend's unrealistic expectations and views on PTSD.

Thank you for writing this, I really appreciate you bringing this up. In my experience, the people who say things like this have no clue about PTSD. I have heard this one: "I'm so sick of you and your PTSD, get over it its been years." "Why are you so worried.." "Why are you so stressed.." etc. These things are so hurtful. These statements assume that the victim is the problem. Why doesn't anyone ask, "why did that person do that to you?" instead they ask us why we are having nightmares, or scared for no reason at times, or cant sleep... go figure.

 

[Britt.f7]

Don't you remember the good things?" Meh

I've heard that way too often. Of course I remember the good things, but those aren't the things I need to work through. I think it is good that you scrapbook to get things out. It is a very creative way to deal with what you need to deal with. If I could scrapbook, I'd probably do the same thing. I guess that's what I have my writing for.

Pencil, I used to say that I wished I was normal or could feel normal. Then I realized, with my husband, wait this is normal, for me. Now I just wish I would feel abnormal.

People are just way to rude and lack compassion at times. I hope you realize all those comments come from people who don't have a clue. They're just talking out of their behind as my mom would say(okay, what she would say would be much harsher then that, but I'm sure you guys get the drift).

 

[Pencil]

there will always be job opportunites and that therapy is what I need now. .

Monster, for a few years - before my recent dx - I beat myself up for not being able to function in a demanding job - or rather, just KNOWING that I could not function. It made me feel like such a whimpy flakey lazy useless idiot - and I asked myself - "BUT WHY can't you just apply and get the job and do the job like a normal, well adjusted adult??? Why are you telling yourself it will be TOO HARD????? What the hell is this 'I just can't cope with the demands'? " OMG I was hard on myself. Thank you for posting that!!!

 

[Pencil]

Now I just wish I would feel abnormal.

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Just love that!
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