Relationship What Would You Like To Hear From Your Sufferer?

[Deleted member 12723]

If I could say I could heal you and do it for my sufferer. It would do wonders. I know dream on.

 

[discarded]

It is a very nice dream Gizmo, better than the nightmare that is PTSD. Keep on dreaming. Sometimes dreams come true.

 

[celia]

Thank you 99Phoenix99,
After not hearing from my exboyfriend for 5 months...I would like to hear, feel, and see:
His smile
His embrace- 5 months no hugs -his arms are all that can heal right now
His realization- that the accusations of me cheating on him were completely false
His friendship
His love
I would like a sincere apology, and validation that I've been his best friend and cheerleader through it all and that there's no other woman in the world that can endure what I've endured with him.
That I'm not poisonous to his health
That I matter

 

[discarded]

Hi Celia. I wish you luck for your wish but I fear that in the real world it probably won't happen, some of it anyway. Nice to wish though.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

To hear I love you and get a very sincere hug that lasts a few moments.

 

[Bilby]

I don't just want to hear from my husband that I am loved/wanted/needed/appreciated, but I want feel it. I want to feel safe and happy in his embrace again and like things will be ok. I guess I'd just like us to share a 'good' day together - for me, that would involve the kind of hugs where you feel the positive emotions from them, holding hands, cooking a meal together, watching a movie, and laughter. Lots of laughter and smiles - the ones where his eyes light up and he looks alive - I love those ones. They're the best.

 

[celia]

Thanks for the vote of confidence discarded.

 

[Tanishq]

a honest hug can move mountains.

Wow! Made me feel warmth deep inside. :)

 

[HelloMo80]

Celia, I felt for you because that was where I was. I had to leave. Not saying you do. That's what worked for me because he couldn't love me without hurting me. I wish you well.

What I used to want was a change...in thought and deed. I wanted consistency above all else. I realized that wanting that was like asking for him to be a different person. I'm glad you at least know that you have some fences to mend. That's a great start.

 

[celia]

HelloMo80,
Hi, thank you for your empathy. There's nothing like hearing from someone that has been through it. I remember your posts from June when my boyfriend had deployed and I was lost in what was happening.
Thank you for relating to me and also I hope that as time went forward for you, that you were able to find some healing. I'm still looking for my light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[HelloMo80]

No worries Celia :)

 

[99Phoenix99]

Hi all, just a little update from when I last mentioned I wanted to make the people in my life feel more appreciated. I've taken to heart what some of you have said and I think it's helped a bit. Small things like.... When my mother was going to go shopping I offered to go with her. With my dad I've been watching more movies with him.

Also, part of my PTSD makes me very uncomfortable with being touched (that includes hugs) but I noticed what most of you have said would help is a big hug. Well I took that to heart, just because I don't like them that doesn't mean others feel the same. So I've been pushing myself to make an effort to hug the people that I love. I'm not going to lie... I still don't like hugs, they make me very uncomfortable however I've seen how much it means to the ones I love. They haven't really said anything to me about it but I do notice they have a big smile when I do hug them.

So I just want to thank you all. I can't instantly make things better with everyone but you've all certainly helped me start the process. Again, if anything ever comes to mind about what you as a supporter would like to hear or do please don't hesitate to share. I'm very grateful for anything you have to offer.

And I wish you all the best and please keep strong. You supporters .... You mean the world to someone who is suffering.