When Do You Know It Is Time To Find A New Therapist?

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I guess you all are right, I just really suck at mentioning things like this. I am kicking myself right now because I completely spaced the D.V. survivors support group I was supposed to go today. I was hoping to get a referral from them.

 

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All I can say is don't wait like I did. The longer you question yourself and give them the benefit of the doubt when they do nothing to earn it, the more horrible you feel about yourself. In the end you hurt your trust in yourself. You know what you need deep down, no matter the doubts on the surface. Trust that you know what is in your best interests even if you're being told to trust in the process or the therapist. Find someone who earns that trust and respect by giving you the dignity and respect you deserve in kind.

 

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Two possible new therapists both said they would call back and never did. I know things happen, but dang I am in desperate need to get something going.

 

[Justmehere]

Dang, that's crummy. :( I hope you call them again or keep calling others and tell them you are desperate.

I hope you find the right fit soon. It's tough. :hug:

 

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Update: Saw my new therapist today. I sought her out specifically since she specialized in PTSD. What a world off difference! She paid attention to my physical cues and pointed them out to me. I was amazed! She could actually see the level of my anxiety when discussing certain things by paying attention to things like my breathing and tensing my muscles. For example she said, "Do you realize your breathing is getting shallow?" Talk about a a complete difference over someone who is falling asleep on me. She also talked a lot about how the brain works and the effect of trauma on the brain. She really seems to know her stuff.

The best part was that I felt heard. For all my rambling and feeling like I wasn't making sense, she understood what I was trying to say.
The drive is definitely a problem. it is 1 hour and 45 minutes away. My husband actually drove me, since I was worried about my emotional state driving home, but it is a winding mountain road with sharp turns, so kind of nerve wracking.

 

[Justmehere]

Yay! She sounds great! I wish she was closer.

 

[ellienad]

That's wonderful to hear! That drive does sound a little daunting though. Be safe.

 

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Interesting. I was just speaking to my husband, and mentioned to him, that the longer I am here on this site, the more I think my former therapist was doing more harm than good. He just told me that he has tough this all along, but didn't know how to tell me.:wideeyed:
He felt that he was pushing me too hard and too fast on things I wasn't ready for and not helping me in the areas I needed the most.

Next time tell me things things will you?:banghead: