When Some One Is 'nice'

[CraftyCath]

Thanks Grim.

I agree. Being vulnerable with anyone is difficult, opening yourself up to yet another stranger is unfair; especially as in my area (Warrington) you have to go to your GP and tell him all the gory details, then he sends you to a Psychiatrist and you tell him the same, then he refers you to Psychotherapy and you see a psychiatric nurse and tell them everything, then they send you for 6 weeks listening/CBT and you tell everything again whilst you wait 2 years to see a Clinical Psychologist just to tell him everything. The system is so cruel. I hope you get sorted with the NHS soon Grim. Meanwhile I'm looking at getting funding from the Ambulance Benevolent Fund (my hubby works for the Ambulance Service) or if that fails the RAF Benevolent Fund (hubby was in the RAF). I there any way you can get funding Grim?

I saw my new T yesterday and he seems to totally understand what is going on with the triggers and dissociation. He was so gentle and asked loads of questions whilst asking me if I felt comfortable enough to go on. I have never felt so at ease with a councilor before. We start EMDR next week which I'm nervous about. He said I was a bit of an astronaut and need to come down a bit. I think this is what others here call 'grounding' but as I haven't had any therapy in 27 years I didn't know what it was LOL. Watch this space, I'm on a learning curve. I'll go through the NHS system but I'll be taking notes that I can then present to my MP and hopefully changes can be made for others with PTSD.

 

[Grim]

I wont be able to take a further 2 year wait to get some help. I can't image I will be around if thats the case.

 

[Tinyflame]

One day at a time, Grim.

Help can come in all different ways and all different places- as long as it works it still works.
Something will work out.

(((((Grim)))))

 

[CraftyCath]

Don't give up Grim. The NHS has a lot to learn and the UK is well behind the US but there is help out there. I've asked for help for years but I won't give up and let the PTSD win.

 

[Grim]

Thanks Junebug and CraftyCath,

I'm not giving up .. but I do reserve the right to die on a date of my choosing. When I lived in London the NHS support there was useless and now I've moved to a town in the midlands - its also useless here too.

Moreover, it amazes me how the UK spends a fortune on prosecuting and incarcerating abusers, but then fails to support the victims - those who were abused?

The concept of the even handed scales of British justice is completely floored where abuse has taken place.

 

[CraftyCath]

I agree Grim. This country is in a mess with little care for those who are hurting. The neglect filters even to the treatment of the elderly. It's a depressing place to live at times. I applied for incapacity and was turned down 3 times but some bloke with a bad back who works under his car for hours gets the full whack. I don't get it at all. If I was alcoholic, a drug addict or if I tried to take my own life I'd get help today. I know these people deserve help but then so do I. Because I don't do anything they say I'm 'coping.' What on earth do we have to do to convince these people?

I'm in Warrington Grim but I thought it was better in London. Obviously it's a national thing.

Glad you're not giving up Grim. You take good care of yourself.