When To Take A Break From Healing?

[pandora]

It is nice that it sounds like you are going to work together.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

I don't know whether your plan to numb out on Prozac and put your healing journey on hold is the right answer, only you can know that. But I did want to offer some support and say that I completely understand the position that you're in. My husband (soon to be ex, but that's a completely different issue) went through about 1 1/2 years of being in a pretty bad place himself and I had to be the strong one while we got help for him and he got some things worked out for himself. It was the right thing to do for our family, so I made sure that I was diligent about taking my medication and put my issues on the shelf for awhile.

I don't really have any great advice. And like I said, I don't know if what you're planning is the right thing. But I just wanted to let you know that I completely understand your situation and you're not alone.

Hi catjudo, I think what you did was a selfless thing to do. Thank you for understanding my reasoning for wanting to take the medication to help my husband out. If the Wellbutrin doesn't work I will switch to Prozac because I love him so much, and have his best interest at heart.

Tammy

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Forgive me Seeking Nirvana
I don't know your history so I'm only responding to what you have written here and I offer a blokes view.
To me it looks like you intend playing the blame card! What I mean is it looks like you are setting things up so you can say "I was trying so hard and doing so well, then I gave it up because of you, I had to go back on the tablets."
Why is it that his issues should only require a little effort? You seem to dismiss his problems lightly.
I have been off Prozac for about 5 months but a couple of weeks back I realised I was very down and struggling with it so I took one. That was it I only took the one, the next day passed easier and I seemed able to gather myself together again. With hindsight I wish I had taken it a week earlier as I have a Wife and it's not fair on her if I become moody and selfish.

Jesta

Hi Jesta

I can see how it might look that way. But my intentions are pure and I wouldn't throw it up in his face. I don't mind giving up my time in order for him to get his issues worked out. He and my children are too important to me.

In all honesty I would love to take a break from healing and be doped up on Prozac :smile:. The only thing is, once I opened that door into healing I can't shut it unless I go on a mind numbing drug like Prozac. I honestly think it would feel nice to go through several months of just not giving a shit about other people's BS or my own. Just coast along with life and say "ALL IS WELL", but we decided that I shouldn't do that as much as I was looking forward to it. :rolleyes:

Unfortunately, we both decided that Prozac wasn't the route to take and Wellbutrin would work well enough along side of therapy for both of us. If that doesn't work we will reevaluate the situation later.

I try not to blame BTW. When I do blame I usually ask myself what part I played in any given situation? 10 out of 10 times I can find the part I played to help create the problem, because I know I have issues and I'm not perfect. There are two sides to "EVERY" story.

If I can't find my part then I will ask someone what I did to create the mess I'm in. I may not always list the part I played because it may take a week to figure it all out, but I eventually come to some conclusion.

It's called clarity and staying out of denial by not blaming, and so I choose not to blame unless asking myself what is it that I have to "own" in my messes.

Thanks for your input
Tammy

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

To all of you who have taken the time to comment, I want to thank you for your time. I'm sorry I didn't get a chance to respond to everyone. But please know that I did read everyone's post and I'm running out of time to reply to everyone.

Thanks again
Tammy