General When To Tell?

[BewitchedBewildered]

Thank you for that. I appreciate it. I've decided not to do anything. I can't do anything to help him and he obviously no longer cares what happens to me, so I need to just find a way to stop the worrying.

 

[Abstract]

Hi Bewitched,

I personally think there are times when the break of trust is less important than someones safety when they are in serious trouble. However, it seems there is nothing here to indicate he is in imminent danger.

I think it is normal to consider the question - should you or shouldn't you. Yes, there is a high rate of suicide and yes you are in an unusual position of being the only one that knows about the PTSD.

I think leaving it is the right thing to do considering the big picture. Its normal for you to worry about his wellbeing but sadly we can't help others unless they want to be helped. He has to take the steps. If he is at serious risk at some point then lets hope he reaches out to someone.

Maybe it will help a little to know that trusting you enough to tell you may help him tell someone else like his sister after. You must have won his trust for him to do what he did. Now it's time for you to let him go and live your life. It's sure to take time but you will get there.

 

[aj1]

What keeps me up at night is the thought that when things get too good, they run. I know it is not a supporter's fault, but in a sad way it is. Had we left them alone, it wouldn't be on our conscience. I don't want to feel guilty for this, and I don't want her to either. The feeling of complete joy to the feeling of total and complete rejection that fast.... it really does break you down.

I studied, and I was ready for the rough patches, but not that. I thought we would talk, I assumed too much.

My heart was in it 100%. My brain saw the signs. The silence has awaken me to the reality of it all. I realize some things I may have done that caused stress, what I allowed her to do and say. I know what I would do differently. At first I really wanted her back and to know she was ok. Now I really just want her to be ok, and I struggle to believe what we had was even real.

It is that heart vs brain battle. I do remember the moments of when she really was there for me. Part of me thinks I started to go 75 to meet her 25. I was ok with that, but never again. She must come 100% and I will walk beside her at the same 100%. Should we waiver, I will stop and communicate. If she can't do that, then I can't stay. And you shouldn't either.

 

[nursenurse]

You know you are not the only one he told about this, you mentioned that he did have some treatment. He told whoever treated him. That person is the best one suited to help him, so it's not like it is a total secret. I am glad you have decided to move on and leave it alone, otherwise I would have written another one of my sermons, lol. You are worth far too much, remember that. Than to be worried and chasing after someone who does not have your best interests at heart.

Time is the best healer. I wish it would just hurry up :D