Poll Who Traumatized You

[MagiLisu]

I picked this one - Person Did Not Understand Their Behavior Was Wrong (please explain below) because both myself and the person who traumatized me were children. I would like to think that had they known how much everything would have affected me they wouldn't have done it :unsure:

 

[Orglethorp]

I was abused and eventually raped (several times) by my father. I can't really say that I thought there was anything odd or different about him at the time, because I didn't know any different. I know now that there have been enough people in his life noticing enough signs and oddities that he should have been diagnosed with antisocial personalty disorder in his late teen years or early twenties, but even now at 56 he has never seen a therapist and probably never will. He can convince the outside world that he's the most normal, kind, and genuine person in the world. Only those who have ever been close to him for an extended period know the truth, and no one spends any significant time with him without ending up hurt in some way.

 

[HëllaBubz]

My father was an emotionally, physically and mentally abusive person.
To this day - no one, including my mother, can figure out which parts of him are personality, and which are part of his screwed up side.

The physical and emotional abuse was pretty bad, and when I left home I soon ended up in the company of someone who beat me even more prolifically, raped me continuously, and used me as 'tender' to pay for drugs or alcohol.
The next partner turned out to be into pedophilia, bestiality and rather savage acts of sex.
I had to watch material with him and pretend I got off on it whilst the police were getting their shit together to raid the house.

When they raided the house they found strong illicit drugs - eccy's, heroin, pill pops and MJ, weapons and about half a terabyte of nasty porn.

The peodophilic images and videos went down to the age of about 6 months....I will NEVER be able to get those images out of my head.

 

[LhasaLover]

My family. Mental illness, physical and emotional abuse, neglect, drug and alcoholism were the norm. My mother is I believe borderline and heavily self-medicated/addicted to uppers, downers, opiates and alcohol.

Two cousins and an uncle killed themselves, another drank himself to death and the entire family tree is really dysfunctional. I could go on and on but what is the point.

I'm surprised I am alive.

 

[who am i kim]

Normal * Person Did Not Understand Their Behavior Was Wrong * :(

My mother through her neglect of my needs and her controlling my life , today she is still in denial and I believe will never acknowledge that she is to blame. She has narcissistic traits, is undiagnosed and is oblivious to her behavior towards me.

Significant other adults (Teachers) through there ignorance and treatment of me in class. Lead to me be severely traumatized over all my school years by there ignorance to my special needs and the way they treated me, in front of the whole class. Other children and there lack of empathy.

 

[ShereenUSA]

I retired to a nightmare. I was traumatized by burglars, game-playing cops that let literally let burglars go, and people creeping around and terrorizing me in my own house. Since the cops were in on the "fun" of terrorizing me too, I had no protection and thus feared for my life. Investors got my houses (I had six properties - all the tenants stopped paying rent at the same time, so I couldn't pay the mortgages.), burglars got my things (I had so much nice stuff), and cops got ... who knows what. Nobody cared what I was left with, or what was left of me, in the end, including my life. They took everything just because they could. They even circled around me and terrorized me after they made me homeless, just because they could. I was gang stalked by gangs of thoughtless, simple-minded, greedy people.

Two years have passed, and I am left rebuilding my life at retirement age with PTSD and my strong spiritual beliefs! I am not like those people, never have been, and never will be, so I get to be with me throughout my life, and they have to live with(out) themselves throughout their life, and beyond.

I think everyone always has the potential and opportunity to change and make amends. Do I think any of them have changed?

For most, NO. In fact, unfortunately, I think a lot of the burglars honed their skills and got better at burglarizing and terrorizing other people through my losses. (One burglar later said, when I asked him if he had ever "snuck into" my house, "everyone was going in your house".)

But for some, YES. Those who saw what they, and everyone else, were doing and "saw the light" or at least "grew up"!

My perception is that everyone involved was affected, to some degree, by my endless love and my adherence to my values and telling the truth all the time. We are all pure, underneath it all - made in the image of god. That truth alone will show anytime someone looks below the surface when they "look in the mirror"/innerflect.

 

[Friday]

Oh man! I was all excited about this poll, I so rarely get to click every button! :D And the "person seemed deranged" is I think my favorite thing I've heard this week! Dagnabit. Only 1 choice allowed.

Well, combat trauma was first (which definitely includes a few seriously 'seemed deranged' :P), and all the rest were either also in combat trauma, repeated later, or slotted into formation later.

So if I could I'd click them all! But the first/best answer in only getting to choose 1 is combat. LeSigh.

 

[ShereenUSA]

My father was an emotionally, physically and mentally abusive person.
To this day - no one, includi...

Wow, and wow. I'm so glad to hear you had that "freak of nature" raided and locked up. I feel so bad for you and definitely understand how the last "boyfriend" traumatized you even more than you had imagined you ever would be. What humans will do to the helpless is disgusting - just because they can.

 

[Ronin]

Can I just click 'a lot of batshit people and a lot of a maybe not so batshit people, but for batshit reasons' and be done with it? Dangit. Need my own goddam poll. :P Prefer to just sort this by the order if they're out of my life & out of lives of those I care for, or if they're not, it's an easier list than all those who-why-for whom.

Ticked criminals because they've been weirder about it, in ways that sticked more. Not saying that 'criminal' wasn't military though. Or the regular mentally ill folk. Tangled shit, not enough f*cks to give, but I like the poll.

 

[Changing4Best]

@ShereenUSA So sorry all this happened to you, how awful! I am glad you found this website, and welcome btw.

We have a thread for Christians in the SOCIAL section, which you might want to join. It is called "CHRISTIANS UNITE!"

I hope you are in therapy; it has been very helpful to me over the years.

 

[Deleted member 19804]

Pretty sure the "man" who raped me is a psychopath, so I ticked "Criminal Behavior: Person Had Sinister or Self Serving Motives" .

And yet I still blame myself for what happened.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

My mother sexually and emotionally abused me from the age of two. I don't think she'll ever admit to it, I don't think she's capable of making amends, she has most of the psychopathic traits. She is the first one who traumatised me. Out of everyone she is the one who caused the most damage and I'm still trying to pick up the pieces aged 32

Others who traumatised me were; my father, boyfriends, boys who were meant to be my friends and another girl.