Why Was Scott Fraser Banned?

[wildfirewildone]

:wink: Thanks bec & veiled for clearing up the matter about what I can do if I suspect someone is being predatory.....I did not even know what the heart and bell symbols meant.....what does the heart symbol mean?? Rest assured that when I start getting creeped out about a suspected predator I WILL USE THE BELL!!!!!! Somewhere along the line I never got the information about those symbols purpose......Thanks ladies for clearing that up......STANDING FOR PEACE AND NON-VIOLENCE

 

[batgirl]

The heart is for adding to someone's reputation, the little green squares under your number of posts. You click on it if you want to send someone a positive message about what they posted.

 

[Deleted member 93]

LMAO... Still trying to figure out how I got those as I piss off so many people! But please people use the bell. Even if you are not comfortable with an editor we know how to step back and look at it in perspective with personal issues aside (whole point). I think a few here may even not believe it but we do play devil's advocate and it is helpful when using the report system so we can discuss from many points what we think as a board editor should do. Since we do not always agree we like to discuss issues and make choices from there.

One thing for certain our choices are made for the OVERALL welfare of the forum.

 

[Claire]

Hello everyone, I'm a bit puzzled by Scott's banning. He is married with kids and his wife reads the forum too so why would he use this fourm for such inappropriate behaviour? Did anyone challenge him when this was taking place? He does seem to have a knack for upsetting people accidently. Some of this is the language/culture barrier as I could tell when he was teasing, harmlessly. Could this have been the case or is it without doubt? He said a few things to me but nothing that offended me. I'm not doubting what people have experienced, if they were offended then they were offended. I also respect the fact that many here have experienced sexual abuse and that they will be extremely sensitive to inappropriate behaviour but can anyone tell me in more detail what Scott did?

 

[becvan]

Claire this matter has already been discussed and handled by forum editors and the administrator. We are not going to release details, nor get in a debate over it. I realize you were freindly with him; however we can not discuss details. We have Scott himself to consider and other members on this forum.

bec

 

[mac]

Bec, no offense, but your reply reminds me of something the US president and his crew might say to the little people beneath them.:think:

Anyway, Anthony seems to have implied, at the beginning of the thread, that this was a 'done-deal,' so may I simply suggest closing this thread.

 

[Claire]

Hello, I dont want a debate. Just an explanation. It feels a bit like a dictatorship at the moment. I'm not disagreeing or agreeing with what has happened as I dont know what has happened, thats the whole point. I dont want an argument, I'm just asking what happened.

 

[batgirl]

I understand what you mean Claire, but I think it would be difficult to go into anymore detail than what has already been said, without hurting the people involved or violating people's privacy.

 

[anthony]

Bingo Evie... and I agree mac, and will close this thread after this post.

I have never made it a secret, I am 100% in control of this forum, it is private, not corporate, it is paid for solely by myself, it is run voluntarily. I have a very open door policy, and I have a very tolerant nature about me to let people go and hang themselves, not try and restrict things, opinions, beliefs, etc... simply respect, however; the facts are that the majority of people here suffer trauma, the facts are that the majority of people here are women most of which have been sexually abused, raped, etc... and the facts are, Scott Fraser is the first person to step over the line (even in my presence) with sexually inappropriate behaviour towards females who feel very much insecure because of their trauma, to have sexual advances towards them in any way, shape or form upon the very community that is here and meant to be helping everyone, not hindering them.

I don't give a rats arse if someone is joking or the like, if sexual comments are made continuously towards females, specific types of females are singled out in private (ie. single ladies) and so forth, I know about it soon enough, and will not tolerate it at all. I had a lot of complaints about Scott, and I waited patiently to see if he would come around, I discussed all points with him in private, as other editors also had done, and comments still continued.

If a person cannot respect what may, or may not, be inappropriate to others, nor do they really care at all, then I have no issue in protecting the majority of the community at all.

Nobody ever just gets banned here, they are always warned prior. I had tracked Scotts complete history here once complaints started rolling in, and he was targeting single females, he was being inappropriate towards females on this forum in private messages and chat, married or not, that doesn't make him a saint, he was targeting women with inapprorpriate comments, questions and issues. Questions asked you could expect to see on a dating portal, let me just say that, not a PTSD support group.

This is not a pickup portal.

 

[Deleted member 93]

Call it a dictatorship or what ever you want, it is called moderating a forum and keeping it as healthy an environment for those here wanting and trying to heal. As Evie pointed out to go into details would violate privacy entrusted in the editors of the forum. What goes on is not always seen by the board as a whole but by us. But I agree a lock on this.