Supporter Wife To Ptsd Suffer

[Kangababysmom]

Hello,
I'm here to try to gauge if what my dh is experiencing is "normal" for PTSD. My dh is an amazing man. He's hard working and loving. 13 years ago he had an uncle that committed suicide and has a sister who has attempted suicide several times now. We think that these events are what has triggered his PTSD. He has episodes of disassociativeness (is that a word) where he is physically moving and acting "normal", but mentally completely looses those gaps in time. He has been known during those gaps of time to do things outside of his normal character - which is concerning and then later have zero memory of that happening. It hasn't been until this past year when I caught him in an event that we were able to start piecing these things together and figure out the PTSD - if that's what it is.

When Dh is having these events he said there's feelings of deep sadness - like someone has just died and he cannot get there to be with them. Although he has had much more traumatic events since his uncle's suicide, he really feels that this is his trigger event. I'm hoping to learn on this forum things I can do to help my DH and ways he can prevent the disassociative events from occurring.

 

[amethist]

Hi Kangababysmom

Welcome to the forum.

While we will always advise that you try and encourage your husband to get a diagnosis we can support you while this happens. Self diagnosis is not an option and it could be deep grief and depression he is suffering from, which are both curable, while PTSD is not.

Come down to the supporter area, where you will find lots of useful information and support for yourself.

Take good care of yourself while all this is going on too, it is important.

Amethist

 

[Pale Warrior]

Hi and welcome, sorry to read of your situation.

What ever your husband is suffering with it sounds serious and, given his family history, he needs urgent attention. Seriously, he needs to see a specialist and soon.

As Amethist says, there are other possible diagnosis for his symptoms and a diagnosis will lead to the correct treatment andhopefully an easing of his suffering.

What ever the cause, you cannot sort this out by yourself and it is unlikely to go away by itself.

Best of luck.

 

[ProudWife99]

I second what was said above me. I hope you can both seek help from a professional, as one can help lay the groundwork for how to deal with these difficulties.

You're not alone.