Would You Hurt/kill Your Abusers?

[Odis]

(Mocifi here) Agreements on 'complicated', though personally all of those complications are superficial, and still more ab...

I have thought about this, dreamt about this, schemed about this. In the end it all comes down to one simple fact, I am not them / him. I am kind and gentle despite what I have been through. I don't have that sadistic side to me. He'll get what he has coming to him one way or another but I won't be the one "welding the sword" so to speak.

 

[Ibu]

(Mocifi) @Odis, I so much get that. It takes energy to both climb to that point and to keep up that balance, oneself from falling it, so very glad you were able to get there and also stay there.

 

[Ihe]

Is funny, you'd think I would of lost all faith with everything I've been through. Don't get me wrong, I'm not as they say "a bible thumper" and I don't even go to church. But I do have faith in my life still after all I've gone through. Small miracles huh? ! :rolleyes:

 

[Erun]

Small miracles mean a world when ones down, hope they keep coming.

 

[Ase]

No.

 

[Emoje]

If I had a magic wand and could kill or hurt my abusers, It would be so easy to become what they were. Why sink to there level. I just tell myself they are sick people. They probably don't have any guilt in what they did and don't plan to make amends, but somehow the question for me is, why and I the survivor and why do I constantly have nightmares where I have to take a very high dose of prazosin to avoid having them is in order? It is screwed up.

You what I say. This world is full of too many sick people and this world is sick. It needs to be healed and if we only looked at it from that perspective. We are too quick to judge instead of saying a man or woman needs help for a serious problem. I am not saying we need to ignore murderers and send them on their jolly way or abusers. I am saying there needs to be some rehabilitation that goes on when they are incarcerated. I'm not saying lets make peace signs and color in coloring books. There has to be deep rehab that goes on to change an abuser. Sometimes you can't because they are psycho or sociopaths.

I mean if you ever been in a mental hospital you will be as close to incarcerated as you get except it doesn't get put on your criminal record. It does get put on a record though. Anyway, I would not wish harm on my abuser even though, sometimes I come close to it. He did harm to me and so did all the others and they basically changed my brain chemistry not for the better.

 

[Vumeti]

I have wondered about it, but as much as I'd like to in theory I don't think I'd be able to, even though I think she deserves it. But one of the reasons I won't go back to her is out of fear that I might do something I would regret. Not just fear of what she'd do to me.

 

[Upe]

Yes if truly honest to myself I would luv to. But as a mother and a daughter , sister , aunty and wife , these people are far more important to me in my life than having abusers blood on my hand. However it doesn't stop me from praying every night that they suffer in life for the torture they put me through and the sufferings i go through on a daily basis. But God is great and I'm a believer so I will leave it in his hands.

 

[Agah]

My father was my worst abuser. He was a violent sadist. And he shared me with his friends. Of course, I want some kind of justice, and for a long time, was angry for not having it. But then I realized that justice is woven into the very atoms we are made up of, and it is self-creating. His life is a horrible, solitary place. He hates himself, and he is truly alone in his own personal hell, a self-made hell.

My dad's motto was "Life Isn't Fair!" He should know. He made it that way.

Life only begins to be fair (remember "fair" originally meant beautiful) when I am fair. I cannot wait for it to be done to me.

I create the beauty or the ugliness of life by my thoughts, who I am, and my choices, which transform me. Life is only as beautiful as I make it with a kind heart.

Take all that energy you are spending hating, and turn it into love for yourself and those around you who could use a kind word or deed, and deserve one.

It is not necessary to forgive the unforgivable. But it is possible to live a life with beauty in it because you cultivated it somewhere inside by choice.

What helped me immensely was the short book "The Sunflower" by Simon Weisenthal.

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[Vilaf]

No..I wouldn't want them to die..that's too easy. I would just want to do to them what they did to me. f*ck them up too. S...

Yes!!! I love that answer

 

[Agun]

If it was up to me, I would want everyone she loves to abandon her so she would die alone.

 

[Igawe]

One of my abusers was later abused.

People asked me if it made me happy.

Absolutely not.

The last thing the world needs is more trauma or traumatized abusive people. They could not handle their emotions before. Now; it's even worse.

The cycle of abuse is not one I want to have continue.

Revenge is not justice or satisfying.