Would You Or Could You

[Sandra]

Then you could probably use your health as an issue again. If it is your pattern especially--it wouldn't be seen as out of the ordinary, since you have had to miss other family functions.

However, in the end you can follow what you really want, since the family doesn't talk about things. It's hard to be in families where things aren't talked about---hmmmm that could be the core to problems developing--they don't talk things out. Some of my family didn't talk about things either. I think it makes for more problems in the long run. However, you can't choose your family.

You have no idea how true that is. Years ago when I tried to talk to my sister about how I was abused. She of course took my mother's side since she was one of her favourites. That sure told me she isn't the person to talk to about anything. So needless to say we never dicussed it ever again. Even though she was not abused like I was. She still has serious issues from all the dysfunction that was within the family.

 

[forrest]

Dear Sandra, I have a very strong opinion about this as my own brother is a bully and has been extremely abusive to me in every way. My T, P and AC have all told me that just because he is family does not mean I have to have him in my life in any way, you would'nt keep a friend or aquaintance who treated you this way, an unhealthy relationship is just that. My T also told me he had to cut his own father out of his life.

In the end I believe you have to do what is right for you, what makes you feel good and right about you. You don't have to make any rash decisions.

A Major final blow out with my brother definetly added to my PTSD to the point of locking myself in my home and constantly checking the locks. :mad:

I choose not to be in his company ever for any reason or occasion and am a much healthier happier person.