Relationship Gone To Hospital

[Allison_ptsd spouse]

H has gone to the hospital at his T's recommendation. He's been suicidal many times before but never hospitalized. Anybody know what they will do for him? Is this going to help?

 

[Virtues]

First thing they will try to do is stabilize his medication. Hospitals are all about pushing drugs. Once he's on a good dose of meds they will start therapy.

 

[Allison_ptsd spouse]

His meds are clearly not working but I'm confused on how they'll fix them. T said it will probably be 3 days. Yet antidepressants for instance take a long time to work.

 

[Virtues]

If they're not working they will start taking him off and prescribing him new meds until they find a "good mix" I don't know why his T would even venture a guess as to how long he would be staying, but that will be their first course of action. He will also be attending therapy while he's there. Most hospitals have some type of visitation as well whether it be by phone or in person so you can stay in contact with your H if you want to.

 

[joeylittle]

H has gone to the hospital at his T's recommendation.

Is this therapist also his prescribing psychiatrist? Or, does his psych have privileges at the hospital he's gone to?

 

[Allison_ptsd spouse]

Thank you, Florian.

I'm feeling a lot of emotions atm. I feel guilty for putting more stress and expectations on him and not giving enough recognition for what he's been able to do that used to be "impossible." We are new parents (7 months) and my emotions have been really amplified when it comes to our son. Unfortunately it's meant being angry over H sleeping until 1pm, whereas in the past I let it slide (married 12 years).

At the same time, I'm glad I shared my feelings if this could actually push him into trying harder to get better.

I feel scared about it not working and H still thinking what he told me the past 2 days. "Maybe I'm just staying around to see who wins the election then *mimes gunshot to the head*."

 

[Allison_ptsd spouse]

Is this therapist also his prescribing psychiatrist? Or, does his psych have privileges at the hosp...

He got to see a psychiatrist one time on video conference. That was over a year ago. Since then it's a nurse practitioner. The hospital is in the city and we're in a small town 2.5 hrs away.

 

[Friday]

It very much depends what kind of hospital, what he's being admitted for, and where they admit him (what ward or unit within the hospital).

If it's just a 72 hour suicide hold? At a standard hospital? He may well just be sitting on a bed in the ER for 3 days with a security guard posted outside. And flip a coin whether they sedate him for the 3 days, or not.

If it's a 72 hour observation at a trauma unit to determine best placement? He may be extremely busy going over past history, meds, meeting with different therapists & psychiatrists, getting a full physical, etc. as they work out an initial treatment plan (inpatient, intensive out patient, outpatient... Diagnostics... Meds... Etc.).

And everything in between.
From What's the Point? to Nightmarish! to Amazing. Best Decision Ever.

 

[Allison_ptsd spouse]

I told him that I wanted to be open and honest and talk about emotions, for our own good and for the baby. But it seems that he can't handle my emotions because they feel like criticism (traumatic memories) and I can't handle his because his thought process is no longer even considering me and our son.

 

[Allison_ptsd spouse]

It very much depends what kind of hospital, what he's being admitted for, and where they admit him....

Oh dear. I don't know enough.

 

[Sweetpea76]

It may be a first step towards placement in an inpatient facility, which may be exactly what he needs. Is it through the VA?

 

[stillstanding2]

It very much depends what kind of hospital, what he's being admitted for, and where they admit him....

If he has been without real therapy and yet suicidal, it is about time he decided to get good medical help. He may need a lot of catching up as well as proper meds, but he has taken a very crucial step in facing his problem(s). I hope he has good insurance and can let the docs do all they can--vor as long as needed. You and your baby need him. Evidently, he could be doing this mainly for that reason. Good luck to your whole family. And please keep talking. You found a good place and good people to talk with.