Sex: How Willing Should A Therapist Be To Talk About It?

[Remi]

No problem, Emov! ^ rock those sexy talks! (with anyone happy to listen and engage).

 

[Adat]

So the op wasn't wrong to bring up what she did with her T?

 

[Ape]

Nope, I don't think so. If the therapist has a problem with it then I don't think that's a good and open therapist. I wouldn't go.

 

[Epan]

I wonder why her T was clearly uncomfortable with the subject?

Triggered her?

Weird

 

[Ujaf]

It could be a dozen things but the patient will never know unless he/she asks the therapist. Which you can do, you know.

 

[Emov]

rock those sexy talks!

To be clear, the "sexy" quotient was actually pretty low. It was more like sad, pathetic, and embarrassing (for me). The fact that she had a harder time listening to it than I had divulging it was pretty mind blowing. I don't know what the hell was going on in her own sex life, but something sure was rotten in Denmark.

 

[Ibib]

Therapists are humans with problems of their own. We tend to forget that, so it's not that surprising to me.

 

[Emov]

patient will never know unless he/she asks the therapist. Which you can do, you know.

And I did do. Repeatedly. And she lied.

 

[Ipab]

If she told you repeatedly that she was not bothered, perhaps you were projecting? Or - you need to describe what she did that led you to believe she was uncomfortable. Otherwise, she can't adjust. If she asked, and you described, and she had plausible explanations...then you might be inventing a response that didn't exist.

 

[Emov]

If she told you repeatedly that she was not bothered, perhaps you were projecting? Or - you need to describe what she did that led you to believe she was uncomfortable. Otherwise, she can't adjust. If she asked, and you described, and she had plausible explanations...then you might be inventing a response that didn't exist.

No. I'm talking about just flat out avoiding the subject, shutting down the conversation as soon as it got started. Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who you knew was avoiding a certain subject? It was just like that.

 

[Ocus]

Maybe she's prudish?

 

[Mogub]

I'm wondering how you would work through the feeling of unworthy and disgusting?