Sufferer Insecurity And Never Feeling Good Enough...

[AuzzyH]

Hi, welcome to the forums. I apologize if someone already asked this and I just didn't see it, but do y...

Yea, I go to group once a week and have a therapist. She helps, but it is great to here other perspectives.

 

[AuzzyH]

@AuzzyH ADD and social anxiety are often a symptom of PTSD and not separate issues....

Thank you, this has been some of the best advice I've had, I fear having a general anger toward women definitely.. I could never hurt a women physically, but I'm sure I have out of my bitterness and anger over not feeling good enough and then pushing them away.

 

[Iwantout]

Well, I seem to be the female equivilent.. Yes, some women get caught in the 'friendship zone' too, we're not all out looking for bad boys.. Some of us just don't seem to match up to what men want... I have many male friends, one who I like a lot but they all seem to 'go' for the women who wear make up, classy clothes, have expensive hair styles and are a certain shape or have great talents that make them popular like singing or art. Either way, they are always good looking with a sense of fashion and wonderful hair.. I'm 'miss average', wear glasses and can't afford to visit a hair dresser or dress like I come out of a magazine.. My male friends will always see me as a sister, someone who can give them the 'woman's perspective'..
One friend was quickly ditched after saying he would take me out if I showed off some cleavage and wore short skirts.. He wanted to take me for a drink then stop over.. No thank you.. If I'm not good enough how I am, sod ya'..

It knocks your confidence for six doesn't it... I can understand why it makes you feel a bit bitter.. Maybe it's not that we're not good enough, maybe we just get caught up with the wrong people, the ones who are not looking for what we have.
I hope the group works out for you and gives you a bit more confidence to go out and be your self. There is a right one for us all, and we will find them once we learn to be happy with our own company and love ourselves. Someone will come along when you are not looking...

 

[EveHarrington]

@AuzzyH ADD and social anxiety are often a symptom of PTSD and not separate issues....

I think what you mean is that they are a symptom of trauma. One disorder doesn't fully encompass all of the symptoms of another disorder. That's not how the DSM actually works.

 

[UniqueSunflower]

My being bitter has just caused me to loose some good people in my life... I wish I could change but I c...

Hi Auzzy,
Welcome to the forum. The fact that you're here and able to identify there's a challenge in this area is a great start to change. Recovery can take a lifetime of zigzags in the road and each relationship we encounter along the journey can teach us something if we allow it to. ;)

 

[sedna]

I think what you mean is that they are a symptom of trauma. One disorder doesn't fully encompass...

I think basically what you're saying is the same thing, most psychiatrists and social workers I know have issues with how the DSM categorizes. Its a diagnostic guideline for the purposes of record keeping, ins. companies, and prescribing therapies and medications. What I meant was that some people take it literally because they dont have a doctor or therapist that will make that clear.

A patient or client may think he was born with ADD and social anxiety and the PTSD is an additional problem. Sometimes the co-commitent issues are organic, sometimes they're not.