EveHarrington
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I think we're moving toward becoming a society where anything that hurts your feelings must be eliminated and/or attacked. Negative feelings are becoming intolerable to people. Instead of taking ownership and responsibility of ones self, we're demanding that the rest of the world change and/or insulting them (in the process).
Instead of empowering oneself by taking control of the situation (by removing ones self and/or learning how to ------gasp!------ tolerate uncomfortable feelings [ahem, which was foundational to my recovery!] through the use of coping skills), it's easier to play the victim and demand that everyone else changes to suit our whims.
Please don't get me wrong------- none of this precludes the use of manners and respect!
Tangential, but very much related is the use of the word "hater" to describe anyone who doesn't unconditionally support us. Someone disagree with you or what you say? Call 'em a hater! Instead of being able to tolerate criticism (which is a part of life), it's easier to deflect and insult the other person.
We've become a society of people who cannot tolerate anything negative that hurts our feelings or upsets us. And it's quite sad. :(
Instead of empowering oneself by taking control of the situation (by removing ones self and/or learning how to ------gasp!------ tolerate uncomfortable feelings [ahem, which was foundational to my recovery!] through the use of coping skills), it's easier to play the victim and demand that everyone else changes to suit our whims.
Please don't get me wrong------- none of this precludes the use of manners and respect!
Tangential, but very much related is the use of the word "hater" to describe anyone who doesn't unconditionally support us. Someone disagree with you or what you say? Call 'em a hater! Instead of being able to tolerate criticism (which is a part of life), it's easier to deflect and insult the other person.
We've become a society of people who cannot tolerate anything negative that hurts our feelings or upsets us. And it's quite sad. :(