Other Verbally Abusive Neighbor - Involve Police Or Not?

[Deleted member 28740]

Does it escalate? When to involve police? Just moved last month. Very verbally abusive neighbor lives within 100 feet of me, though a cottage it has a drive way he uses around it. What happens if I involve police? He grows illegally which is what started, I think, the abuse. Does it escalate? Just moved, and physically financially wrecked. Need no more hell.

Normal for first week or so, then he left some cucumbers on my outside table where I spend time reading. Mentioned aqua fresca, temps had gone from the low 60's to 90's. Before verbal abuse was just hi hello, talk about the rentals being slum lord (and they are). He mentioned his wife and being in HR for the state. Look forward to meeting her. He also mentioned his 'man cave' and growing. Not interested made me very sick first time. His wife yelped when I walked over, no introduction. Since then a very verbally abusive and stalking like behavior.

He has been abusive to my dog (hyper vigilant and that says a lot having lived in Oakland - all physical signals of THIS IS A BAD PLACE - tail tucked, check out of doors several time a night, no nodding off when out side laying down).

Can't deal with moving again financial or physical or PTSD. But choice is to involve police or not.

Few day ago family stopped by. Sitting out side. Leroy came out and screamed at my brother in-law "What the F*uck are you looking at. This at 2 in the afternoon. It is escalating with him now driving 20 feet from me and call me a crack head psycho c*unt. All because I saw he illegal grow. Which I don't give a damn about.

Incidents are almost daily now. Spoke with landlord and said I would involve police if this continued.
Police willing to intervene. What then?

 

[PTSDfree]

Definitely. He could do something very bad to your dog (or family in general) if the police do not get involved. My aunt had a really bad neighbor that poisoned her dog with antifreeze.

 

[EveHarrington]

Maybe it's the drugs (not just pot) that makes them psycho. I'd be very afraid for my safety. What if they have a meth lab too? Goodness, you could all be blown sky-high. :-/

 

[Deleted member 28740]

What can the police do? A restraining order of 50 feet. I am so wrecked from move. Have to move.

Due to injury can not do my normal 2-3 mile dog walks. Why I had to move here. It has a common field. Week ago he went crazy and the wife when I put a camp chair out to watch the sunset. I was trying to spy on them and look in their window. It is a psycho situation. I have no way to move. Not even moved in here.

Police descending on him ….. then what protects me or my dog?

 

[Ka-9]

What can the police do? A restraining order of 50 feet. I am so wrecked from move. Have to move....

I don't know laws there.... but you could try and grab a cop, via a friend or even popping by a station and laying it all out for them, then ask for their advice, you're not compelled at all that way and they may suggest what to note or record that would assist them, or the landlord later.


If he just gets worse and worse.... then I would personally likely call police. If he's a renter? ...with a grow or lab? Bye bye asshole! The place will likely be condemned due to hazards or mold anyways.

 

[Deleted member 28740]

If he's a renter? With a grow or lab? Bye bye asshole!

He is also a renter, same landlord. Same slum lord. He moved in some time around April, according to other tenants.

Is it a he said she said, though my sister and brother in law can witness the one outburst?

 

[scout86]

You just answered a couple of questions I had.

So, how does he get along with the other renters? Has he given anyone else a problem? Does anyone else know what he's growing? How do you get along with the landlord? I kind of like @Ka-9 's idea about trying to talk to someone in law enforcement in a more unofficial way. You never know, they might already have this guy in their sights. If I was the landlord, and this guy was causing problems for several people AND breaking the law, I'd want him out. But what are the lease agreements like? How easy would it be for him to be evicted, if the landlord wanted to do it? Sometimes it's harder than you'd think.

 

[EveHarrington]

Can't you report the growing?

 

[sedna]

Can't you report the growing?

If thats oakland ca they dont care about growing. The police are looking the other way on pot now and so do landlords.

 

[Deleted member 28740]

You just answered a couple of questions I had.

So, how does he get along with the other renters?

They liked that he mowed the grass.

Across from me is the "care taker' for the LL. He has 30+ rental properties. The care taker is a character, and his ex girl friend room mate. He is a screamer and they fight. DV calls a few years ago… she is in need of help, and I have. Driving to DR. and food bank, etc. Loaded.

Other two cottages. One a very nice guy we just say hello. He always say's my name if I am around, and he is leaving for work and have a good day. Other cottage is an odd couple, young with three small dogs. She came over one day and said one of her 3 small dogs had a problem with eating poo. Make sure to clean up after mine. Always have, and do. Showed her my bag of bags. She never picks up after he 3 that don't get walked and just use the field as she uses one of the throw and fetch. So I got some cheap sneakers for using the field as it has lots of droppings.

LL - this place and the other nice guy place have both been re-rented within two months of move just this year. Rent went up 30% in area so he has no worry to find a renter in need.

 

[sedna]

This is a really tough situation, some areas of town will have police involvement be helpful, others they don't even care and it just makes the guy worse.

That is nothing to do with 'bad neighborhoods' either, its the police dept in that spot and whos there.

Ive had really bad experiences with vindictive crazy neighbors being threatening in the past. Id leave the police out of it and set up cameras and use my phone to get as much documentation as possible.

Just be polite and wait until he does something thats so bad you cant live with it then show all the evidence you have at once.
A grow op. in CA wont get him evicted. Theyll just tell him to get rid of it and then he'll want revenge.
I had this same issue a few years ago. Nobody even came to check if he got rid of it and it was in an outdoor shed in his yard with timers and lamps set up!
Finally they did something terrible enough to call cops and all the documentation got them out. I wasn't the one that called either, the other neighbor was.
This is such a horrible way to live!
I hate to sound gutless but its better to ignore and be polite if you dont know how crazy they'll get.

 

[Deleted member 28740]

I hate to sound gutless but its better to ignore and be polite if you dont know how crazy they'll get.

Yep. I make no contact eyes or verbal. It is escalating anyway. Why I talked with the Police today. Now phone at my side at all times and making notes.

SUCKS.

It is WA. not CA.