The healing can begin... i think i am almost at a point of building structures now...

[ms spock]

Amazing article!

I hadn't thought about it this way before - but it makes sense to me!

Understanding Repeated Trauma: Heal structures, not just the symptoms

With Thanks to @Nadia!

 

[shimmerz]

Really great article that describes the underpinnings of trauma, not just the 'loud symptoms' as she mentions.

I really like the comment from someone that speaks of the need to monitor sensory input data and how to break the programs that have been set based on those.

We need to be able to treat how the brain processes sensory data. In order to do this, we need to be able to feel, which for many people means, coming out of freeze in all its forms.

 

[Velvet Steel]

Amazing article!

I hadn't thought about it this way before - but it makes sense to me!

This really speaks to me; especially the part about missing out on the development that should have been occurring while the trauma was going on. I've had times when the 'loud symptoms' are quiet, but I still don't know how to live...like basic daily functioning. Sometimes I feel like I'm 8 years old in a grown up body. Who will parent me as an adult and teach me all the things I missed? Lacking those basic skills inevitably leads to more trauma: conflict, not having food in the house, things scattered everywhere, feeling out of control...

I guess that will come. For now, my symptoms are VERY LOUD, and I need to calm them down first.
Thanks for posting the article and for listening. :)

 

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I Think I Am Almost At A Point Of Building Structures Now...

Yes, from your posts, it looks like your healing journey is well along @Ms Spock!

You are doing tremendously, it is so reassuring to see! :happy:

 

[Hope69]

Yes, totally agree. My T said once Ii heal the past, I will no longer have emotions that are tangled with past experiences. Firstly, not true, there are always bits and pieces of our past lying around. Secondly, building a new way of elating to myself and world so as not to repeat harmful patterns was not addressed.
Along with connecting to myself and others, I would have to stress that healthy boundaries are important to building trust. I didn't have armed guards, I had an easy going golden retriever all to happy to waltz into any relationship. IN other words, I needed to not only connect with myself, but learn to react to my body's cues so I could build trust .

 

[ms spock]

Oh @Hope69! I am so with you and I am still trying to connect to myself and I look forward to reacting to my body's cues so I can build trust.

 

[ms spock]

I am really working on trying to be present enough to actually know what is going on with me. It is very different. I missed so much developmental stuff at every stage.

 

[Friday]

It is so important for survivors and the loved ones of survivors to recognize that treating the symptoms is crucial for treatment, but it isn’t what heals the trauma. It is what allows the healing to begin.

Like x1000

 

[ms spock]

This is pretty hard but I am sticking at it.

 

[shimmerz]

And how are you figuring out what 'structures' you want to build on?

 

[ms spock]

I am not really sure @shimmerz. I have really only just arrived in this place.

I know I want to be there present in this now with my students and with others. I want to be here and be present.

I am working on routines and habits that are life sustaining and helpful.

 

[shimmerz]

routines and habits that are life sustaining and helpful

I think for myself I have noticed that one of the first building blocks has been my relationship to my body. Learning to eat with my body's health in mind. Sleeping. Not sabotaging. I kind of am going back to the structures I worked on with my children when they were younger.

I was just wondering if you had a resource when you spoke about structures. Thank you Ms Spock. I appreciate your validating where I am at.