Need Help Coping With Yelling

[Jacqueline1]

Hi I have complex ptsd from horrible child abuse...to much for my brain to cope with. Now my husband yells at me everyday. It's devastating to my heart and soul. I feel like he just cuts away a piece of what's left of me every day. I feel so nearly shattered. Any advice on how to cope. I have become so isolated not wanting to leave my room. I look around and feel so overwhelmed that I can't concentrate on complete tasks and household chores let alone make full dinners anymore. I also have lupus,care for my elderly mother in law and 4 older children and my 2 shepherds 1 is ill I feel so bad
I almost feel broken.......the other day I thought I did break
thank you for letting me talk. I have no friends to talk to. I am trying to change and get the help I need.

 

[hodge]

Welcome, Jacqueline. Are you in therapy?

You could also call your local domestic violence shelter and/or hotline for help. Because, yes, getting yelled at everyday is domestic violence.

Take care.

 

[Jacqueline1]

Welcome, Jacqueline. Are you in therapy?

You could also call your local domestic violence shelter and/or...

Not currently in therapy but I'm trying to. I started looking today for counseling and I found this sight hoping for advice. Thank you so much

 

[hodge]

Lots of areas have nonprofit mental health clinics that only charge on a sliding-free scale, according to your income.

Sending a :hug: if that's okay.

 

[RavenGirl]

Welcome to the forum. I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, no one deserves to be yelled at every day. I have 2 questions for you. Do you have a trauma therapist, and have you let your husband know what his yelling does to you? I hope things can change for you, but you hold the key to making that happen. Good luck in your journey to healing. :hug:

 

[GrayOwl]

Not currently in therapy but I'm trying to. I started looking today for counseling and I found thi...

Even if you don't find advice, (which you will), I encourage you to return often.
There is so much compassion and understanding here. Sometimes, besides advice, we
just need a listening ear, or a chance to share or learn or listen.
There is much healing power simply by posting and sharing. I'm glad you're here, glad you shared.
And I hope you find some solutions to your problems and comfort in your life soon.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Welcome to the forums!

I'm so sorry that is happening! I believe that you need to make a very clear boundry here; no yelling! Walk away if he yells. You will not communicate with him at all if he yells. If he continues, this is verbal abuse and you do not deserve it.

I have blind "rage" explosions but they arent anger, they are pure anxiety. I was taught how to feel my anxiety spiking fast and get myself out of the situation so I don't verbally explode. Though only a min, maybe less, before. If I were married, I'd want a chance to be shown how to do that. Have you mentioned therapy to him? That he needs his own therapist and probably a marriage counselor/therapist?

I'm sorry this is happening! You don't deserve this either way! :hug:

 

[Jacqueline1]

Lots of areas have nonprofit mental health clinics that only charge on a sliding-free scale, according to y...

Thank you so very much. very helpful and the hug helps

 

[Jacqueline1]

Welcome to the forum. I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, no one deserves to be yelled at...

Thank you. I didn't know that there are treated therapists. my husband knows but makes excuses for himself.!!??

 

[Tinyflame]

:hug:

 

[Jacqueline1]

Welcome to the forums!

I'm so sorry that is happening! I believe that you need to make a ve...

Thank you so much. I plan on "discussing"
Counseling this evening

 

[Jacqueline1]

Even if you don't find advice, (which you will), I encourage you to return often.
There is so much comp...

I am so thankful. you and everyone's words really are so healing. I can't tell you how much. I've not talked to anyone in so long. I really appreciate everyone I do plan on staying here.