Need Help Coping With Yelling

[lostforgottensoul]

@Jacqueline1, I do understand that leaving is scary and hard and there are so many factors and I suppose in our minds "pros" of staying and "cons" of leaving but please understand that this is abuse pure and simple. You do not deserve it. I know it is scary to leave but secretly make a plan, call family or friends and try to secure a temp place to stay and leave.

I agree that your Lupus is only getting worse with the added stress.

I don't often advise people that they should leave their spouse or S/O but I feel that you are being abused. I fear for your saftey and well being! :hug:

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Jacqueline1 All the reasons in the world for staying, won't change the damage that happens because of the stress from the screaming, yelling and meanesss that your husband expresses. You should know by now too, the additional stress that having an autoimmune disorder can have on your psych and health so I won't elaborate on that.

I think you should really rethink the reasons you stay, and find ways to leave. JMO! And we all make choices.....

 

[Jacqueline1]

@Jacqueline1, I do understand that leaving is scary and hard and there are...

Thank you for caring. It's so amazing to hear kind words and know I'm not entirely nuts. I really appreciate or advice thank you;)

 

[Jacqueline1]

@Jacqueline1 All the reasons in the world for staying, won't change the damage that...

Thank you She Cat. Everyone here's been so very kind. I just can't thank everyone enough for your support , my head was in a bad place but for real knowing that you understand really lifts my heart. Honest to God it has. I'm going to be researching my options.

 

[Jacqueline1]

@Jacqueline1 All the reasons in the world for staying, won't change the damage that...

You know what's sad. After such a screwed up childhood I thought I educated myself enough to never be put in a those situations. My 1st husband was put in jail and I have a lifetime restraining order on him. I knew my 2nd husband from high school and he had been my best friend and then boyfriend. He knows my traumas he promised to help me and keep me safe. I don't understand. I think maybe he's sick or something. He's breaking my heart

 

[Deleted member 541]

I'm glad. Your health is important as is your safety. Working on your PTSD can't be achieved in a situation where you are in constant stress and dysfunction. You might check out a women's shelter to see if they can help also. Make a plan, don't do anything rash. Plan things out and make sure you have some $$ to help you get through, if and when you decide you might want to leave.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Jacqueline1 Sometimes we unconsciously choose unhealthy relationships because it's what we know and are comfortable with. We don't see the red flags waving, or we choose to ignore them. Sometimes we think we can FIX them too.

Yes, it is sad, but what's worse is KNOWING it and not doing anything to change it.....

 

[Jacqueline1]

I know I need to take care of me now. It's just such a shame. Ithe was my mission not to repeat history and I guesse because it wasn't physicall I have dealt with it way to long again. I've tried to leave before.

 

[Jacqueline1]

I'm glad. Your health is important as is your safety. Working on your PTSD can't be achieved in a sit...

Thank you

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Jacqueline1 Abuse is abuse. It's no different from physical, emotional, mental. Sometimes even monetary abuse happens. It's all about control. Abusers need that aspect of control over us, and they use whatever means they have at their disposal.

 

[Jacqueline1]

@Jacqueline1 Abuse is abuse. It's no different from physical, emotional, mental....

was going to ask if you are psychic.....he's been a nut job over money. yes. As I take a step back and take a breather you've made a lot much clearer. thank you

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Abuse is abuse.

Make a plan, don't do anything rash. Plan things out and make sure you have some $$ to help you get through, if and when you decide you might want to leave.

AGREED!

@Jacqueline1, do you have a smart phone and/or a tablet? Smart phone would be better. If so go to google play or iTunes and download the Aspire New App. Its Dr. Phil's wife's, Robin Mcgraw's domestic violence app. It is supposed to look like a news app to be secret and it has a panic button where you can hit it and it sends a pre-recorded text or call to anyone you want or 911. Also there is a lot of info about leaving saftely, what you need in your plan to leave, how to saftely, and how to stay safe.

Its a good app. I downloaded it just to check it out. Only issue i have is you can find it on google play or iTunes and read the comments to learn what it really is.

Lets see if I can link it:

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Google Play: (sorry for the long URL. Only way to link it as it automatically pulls me into google play):

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