Ever Just Want People To Be Depressed With You

[screen-name]

I know everyone tries to be encouraging and hopeful. It comes from love. It may also come from worry that any other response will make me worse off.

But sometimes I would really like a giant complaint fest. Just a period of time to say what's crappy for me and have the other person reply with their crappy thing. Just back and forth and validation of the crappy feelings.

There is a part of me that knows it can get better but it seems like it would be good to wallow for a while at least once.

 

[Silver.]

We seriously celebrate Festivus and air our grievances (and actually do it more than once a year), it feels really good to know other people have issues going on and that we're not alone in it x

 

[screen-name]

We seriously celebrate Festivus and air our grievances (and actually do it more than once a year), it f...

That sounds like fun. We don't do that in our family. Maybe I can get a group of non family and have a time like this.

 

[ladee]

YES! Just to set and bitch and complain. Feel sorry for myself. Wallow in it until it just feels too nasty to stay there.

 

[Reclusive]

Yes - we call those "pity parties" - and I FULLY believe in having them. Take some time, feel as MISERABLE as you need to, complain about everything you need to get out of your system. Just don't stay there. It's hard, though, to find friends who are okay doing that, but they're out there. <3

 

[mamachick]

Silver that is funny, and cool that you do this. I remember it from Seinfeld.
We sure all need validation for our pain, and often use therapists for this.

I have gotten stuck in that bitch and complain mode, then I only want to talk to others who either bitch and moan or unaffected by my bitching and complaining. I then seem to notice more things to bitch and moan about, and don't notice the things to be grateful for. Its hard not to get caught up in that negative thinking.

But it sure would be nice to be around more empathetic people/family who can validate rather that tell me that Im wrong, need to be more positive, etc. It really sucks when feeling so bad.

 

[screen-name]

My thinking is that we all have PTSD. That does not mean we can't be positive but it does mean that we had some extreme crap happen.

I for one will never get to talk to the people who causes it. I will never get validation that way. I have spent most of my adult life just ignoring it or assuming it was all ok. I would really like to say how crappy it was. What it stole from me. What I wish I,had gotten instead.

Then I want people to exclaim it's crappiness with me. Like when you break up with someone. Your your friends never respond with "it'll be ok, just do some tapping." No, they say "that jerk! You can do way better." There's a time for bad feelings as long as you don't live in them.

 

[ladee]

But sometimes just getting to get it out without judgement would help me to see what is petty and what is important. Get the petty crap out of the way and have that extra energy to put toward healing work.

 

[illusionist]

I did this with a mate......ended up being a great night. We shared a bottle....shared out frustrations etc, then turned up the music and danced like crazy....and I really mean like crazy!..collapsing in a heap of uncontrollable laughter. At work the next day, she was looking as great as I felt.......it's all about balance.

 

[leelee]

Im glad Im not alone in these "bitch and moan episodes". It must be common under the circimstances.

 

[saraemerald]

I did this with a mate......ended up being a great night. We shared a bottle....shared out frustrat...

That sounds awesome