Losing Thingsall The Time

[ladee]

@Allie D. don't be so hard on yourself!! Normal people do things like this all the time. Its not just us!
Too much on our minds, thinking about other things, running late.
That is the human condition.
We are not the exception to that rule. Its called being human.
Hugs across the miles if you accept.

 

[EmmaOwl]

@Allie D. don't be so hard on yourself!! Normal people do things like this all the tim...

Thank you so much for writing this! This is where I know things get wonky.... I get into the all-or-nothing thing. I'm all good, awesome, or all bad, dreadful. I don't have Borderline Personality Disorder, but I do know it's a characteristic of BPD, and a lot of people here understand that type of thinking.

I do think more strange things happen to me, and if you're going to guess things like, I don't know, which of 5 people is most likely to fall down the stairs, it's more likely to be me than anyone else ;) But that's clumsiness. Those that support me remind me the same things -everyone loses their keys....and I am constantly sleep deprived and on an almost absurd amount of medication. ANYONE would be foggy. I have to keep going - tiring as all hell, but always the best I can.

Sometimes I think, "I am not meant for this earth." @ladee I thank you for your strong support on this, moving me away from the thought that it is somehow only me that goes through these things.

Its called being human.
Hugs across the miles if you accept.

Thank you so much and in this case I definitely could use the hugs!

 

[ladee]

Happy to hear you aren't hitting yourself with the 'Stupid Stick' anymore.
Takes time to find our balance in our thinking.
You shared and that was great...
More hugs if ya need 'em!!

 

[J'qel]

My mother used to get mad at me because I'd have to check to see if I had tied my shoes. I'd go on "autopilot" to do routine things and just not remember that I did something or where I put stuff down.

A recent thread helped me realize it wasn't that my memory was bad, it was that I was dissociating. I'm working on it now, but it's a hard habit to break (blanking out the boring everyday stuff).

 

[Will86]

This message made me smile cause I feel like I was reading something I could have written myself.

You are not alone in this and it's normal to feel frustrated. I think It's a good sign to feel frustrated over small things like this, it's part of life. You are a normal human being. I have never been organized and it went downhill since my recent ''trauma''. I look at myself in the mirror and take a good laugh at me when I loose something for the 100 times again and I say to myself ''Will you ever learn from your mistake one day ?''

No.. the truth is I kept, I keep and I will keep loosing my keys and others things all my life and make the people close to me frustrated and angry because of it.

Don't worry, when you say ''I seriously cannot organize these most simple things.''
This is part of your personality, this is what makes you special and a funny person in some way.

 

[gealach]

I lose everything not physically attached to me. If I wasn't attached to myself, I'd lose me somewhere too. Sometimes I find things in really really strange places. I can't prove it yet, but I think all the things I never find, are in the same place as all the socks eaten by my dryer.

 

[ladee]

Like all of us have our own Narnia!

 

[EmmaOwl]

Like all of us have our own Narnia!

I LOVE this explanation :O
Neverland would be a good one, too! If it's not in the back of a wardrobe, we just have to fly.... -When the play Peter Pan was first produced, - 1905 I think - so many kids jumped around trying to fly "by thinking lovely thoughts" the playwright actually had to add in the line about the fairy dust... it's nice to think about being so carefree!

...after the first production I had to add something to the play at the request of parents (who thus showed that they thought me the responsible person) about no one being able to fly until the fairy dust had been blown on him; so many children having gone home and tried it from their beds and needed surgical attention. - J.M. Barrie

The local pharmacy actually found my car key in their candy display. Gloves, wallet, keys apparently too much to juggle, I really must do something, be more careful somehow. Sometimes I blank out and I really need to make sure that does not happen when I'm out and about on my own.... And as much as agoraphobia wants to grab me these days, I am trying so hard to lead a more active life. I need to keep on, plain old taking care of myself even when it's the last thing I feel like doing.

I'd go on "autopilot" to do routine things and just not remember that I did something or where I put stuff down.

I'm sorry, @J'qel .... that sounds incredibly stressful and your mother putting a lot of pressure when you were young. I hope you get past some of the dissociation..... but, just as everyone loses their keys, I think a lot of people go on autopilot, tying shoes, everyday things.

I think my bad situations end up because I don't get out often enough on my own, and I don't have routines. Each thing becomes its own big deal.

 

[EmmaOwl]

I lose everything not physically attached to me. If I wasn't attached to myself, I'd lose me somewhere too.

In my recent rereading of the Laura Ingalls Wilder "Little House" books, I read about a young boy's mittens being attached by a long string, all the way up one coat sleeve, around his shoulders, down the other sleeve to his second mitten. I am seriously considering implementing a similar system (though I probably wouldn't use red yarn).

 

[EmmaOwl]

This is part of your personality, this is what makes you special and a funny person in some way.

Thank you! That is such a sweet thing to say, Will.

 

[gealach]

In my recent rereading of the Laura Ingalls Wilder "Little House" books, I read about a young boy's mi...

I had these too. Had, because instead of losing just 1 mitt, I lost the pair. :hilarious::banghead::roflmao: oh well, at least they're together with all the other things I can't find.

 

[EmmaOwl]

I had these too. Had, because instead of losing just 1 mitt, I lost the pair. :hilarious::bang...

lol I had this worry too. I was thinking , "Wait would I need to attach them to the JACKET, too??"

at least they're together with all the other things I can't find.

I find this very optimistic (sadly!).
oh well.