Love Of My Life Turned To Ice

[Deleted member 38644]

@Ducky77 I looked at her other postings and @Friday was referring to the guy blocking her and etc. Idk what to think of her or her profile. I'm confused.

 

[Deleted member 39414]

You posted this as a big f*ck you guilt trip on the sufferers side of the forum, so I'm going to be real...

@Friday I didn't realize I posted this on the sufferers side. But I am very glad to hear from a sufferer to understand what it's like. I wish I knew a lot more about ptsd before dating. I asked him many times about things I needed to prepare myself for. I wanted everything in the open. He hasn't blocked me yet from contacting him. Three weeks ago, he told me he missed me terribly. Now he'S ice. I don't know if I should even contact him. What helps?

 

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@Friday I didn't realize I posted this on the sufferers side. But I am very glad to...

I read your previous postings and I'm confused. What has been going on lately? Are you both dating or what?

 

[Deleted member 39414]

Im curious - those other men/relationships - how long did they last?

I question the reality of you...

@joeylittle I dated two guys for three years each. They were too young for me. The rest 3-4 months. I have been through a lot and relate to people who struggle but keep fighting. He was my ideal man
He said we were two souls who had met, that we were perfect together. That we were going to create an artists' retreat together. I don't think a year and a half of an intense relationship is a brief affair. It was too early for him to move in not for me. If I had known about ptsd I could have acted differently, slowed things down. And his kids and I were good together. Our Thanksgiving was beautiful. I love getting perspective. From my view, it's all so heartbreaking. We seemed to share so much. This is silly. But we even had similar bath towels. I loved him more than anyone I have ever met. That is why this break up is so hard and I'm seeking insight. I am so grateful for any advice.

 

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I read your previous postings and I'm confused. What has been going on lately? Are y...

@Lauren Taylor he moved out three weeks ago. He never said it was over. But three days ago, he said I can only offer you friendship. So it's over despite many mixed signals on his side.

 

[GrayOwl]

When his ptsd is triggering he will most likely act like a wounded bear backed into a corner. Attempt to console him and you may get your head bit off.
When the moon is no longer full then Mr Hyde may return and Dr.Jekyll may disappear for a while. Or maybe not.
How do you know when he's triggering? I doubt if even trained professionals could tell you that with any consistency. My suggestion: keep a safe distance, and at all times protect your physical and emotional well being and those close to you. That takes a lot of strength and vigilance. !!!
No matter how harshly words seem to be spoken here, read the meaning. There is wisdom to be had.
I won't say the good times and magic won't ever recur, but this IS a mental illness and you will always be dealing with that - even on the good days.

 

[Deleted member 38644]

I would just give him space.

 

[Deleted member 39414]

When his ptsd is triggering he will most likely act like a wounded bear backed into a corner. Attempt...

@GrayOwl Thank you so much. I'm not confident enough to not feel destroyed. This forum has been a lifeline. For someone who didn't know anything about PTSD, the last two months have felt like I was run over by a bus.

 

[Deleted member 39414]

I would just give him space.

Thanks. I'm trying. I just deleted 4,000 texts from him. We used to talk that much. Bless you.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I met my ex online. We wrote to each other every day for six weeks. When we met, it was magic. After t...

Well, we all have to distinguish between PTSD and being plain abusive. I have PTSD but would never behave that way. It sounds like he is happily using the PTSD diagnosis to hurt and abuse innocent people.

Run away from that one, do not answer any letters, none of that, that person is just plain bad news.

 

[GrayOwl]

Well, we all have to distinguish between PTSD and being plain abusive. I have PTSD but would nev...

Thank you.
Maybe not "happily". But "is" nevertheless.
A lot of work and pain to be around that one is.

 

[Deleted member 39414]

Well, we all have to distinguish between PTSD and being plain abusive. I have PTSD but would nev...

Crap. I was hoping his behavior could be attributed to ptsd. His switch has been so dramatic. I am finally backing off. I cannot deal with the freeze.