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[Darkhorse1]

I found the site on tapatalk and after browsing a bit it said I reached my limit without registering an account so here I am. I am not new to the world of online forums but I am new to one of this topic. A little about myself I live in Texas, did 5 years active duty Marine Corps and been out for about two years now, did one pump with the 31st MEU and one to Afghanistan, I'm just starting to come to grips with taking control and overcoming. When I got back I suffered bad with alcoholism and overcame that but feel I am slipping back down that path as my marriage seems like it's taking a turn for the worse. I've started attending a weekly group therapy kind of thing for vets with PTSD. To be honest I probably won't post much unless something catches me but it's nice to know there's something like this out there. Any questions feel free to ask and depending I'll try to provide a good answer, I'm not very closed off when it comes to talking with other vets since that's seemed to help the most but I can't promise I'll always be a ray of sunshine. Semper Fi and thanks for having me.

 

[fwduff]

welcome

 

[reddevil1111]

Semper Fi!
I understand the feeling of detachment and lack of desire to post a lot. Just do what feels right.

There is a lot on the site worth reading. I still remember when I first hit the reading and I was amazed that so much of what I was dealing with was part of the PTSD. Its pretty involved and it really does take over everything in life.

Marriage is very difficult for all of us who either were or are married. I've been divorced and recently remarried. I blew a gasket ont he wedding day. It almost didn't happen. Its a work in progress and communication is key.

There are a few things you can consider doing with your wife that might help her understand and communicate better with you both. Look at the videos on the site and both of you should watch the your not in the forces anymore together. Trust me, it helps a LOT>!

I was in the corps as well. I understand that part. Feel free to pm me if you need to talk. Dan

 

[BaMuoiBa]

Welcome TDH, Semper Fi!

Thank you for your service, it's good to see you made it back. Lots of good information here so pull up a chair and make yourself at home.

When I got back I suffered bad with alcoholism

Did some self medicating myself for about 25 years - been of the sauce since 89 - trust me "it won't fix anything" just postpones it for another day.

I've started attending a weekly group therapy kind of thing for vets with PTSD

Thats a very good start indeed, we need the talk therapy with other vets.

I can't promise I'll always be a ray of sunshine

Don't worry we take your good day as well as your bad one. Thats what we do here.

Lots of folks form the "sandbox" even a few old Nam Farts like myself. OOOHRAH!

Ba

 

[Darkhorse1]

Thanks for the welcomes, computer access is limited right now so I'm usually on my phone.

 

[bemental]

Welcome DH, hope the nicer weather lifts those spirits as well.

 

[Spock]

Welcome home Marine, you are not alone here. I get a lot out of group therapy as well and like this forum because when I'm not at group, there are usually combat vets available here. And if you're not ready to engage yet there is a legacy of good resources that have been posted over the years. Stay safe, stay strong.

 

[Jimmy1]

Thanks for the welcomes, computer access is limited right now so I'm usually on my phone.

Welcome TDH,

Tapatalk sucks real bad when i have to use it, I have 5 thumbs.

Mate, have you been and had an official diagnosis?? You might be entitled to some treatment that can help you out.

Self medication is no answer and if you still have your marriage, do your best to keep it, especially if there are kids around. Wives and children have no idea of what it's like to live with the beast, but they don't have to. They just have to live with you, it's your job to manage the beast.

You look like you are taking the right steps anyway.

 

[vikingr12]

Being a quiet one myself, I find the Beast to be more difficult a problem. At least that's what they say. But being a motor mouth is not something I really want someone to say about me. But I do write a lot I have found. And it helps to write some of this stuff, if not for now, for later. Sometimes my own words when I am OK seem to bring me back to the earth.

But thanks for your service Marine. We take it as life comes but try to prepare for the bad times you know are going to happen.

Message up when they do.

 

[Jimmy1]

Actually Viking, you bring up a very valid point. People that can talk about their problems can find solutions a lot easier, that's natural, but the military have a way of (I won't use brainwashing) conditioning us to not complain and not talk about our problems otherwise you are seen as the weak link.

I really enjoy the fact that people on this forum can speak their mind. There is no 'Wrong' when it comes to PTSD, what works for one person might not work for another.

Either way, everyone needs to learn how to talk about their problems when it comes to PTSD, that is the one common thing.

 

[Lee C]

Welcome

 

[Darkhorse1]

Welcome TDH,

Tapatalk sucks real bad when i have to use it, I have 5 thumbs.

Mate, have you been and had an official diagnosis?? You might be entitled to some treatment that can help you out.

Self medication is no answer and if you still have your marriage, do your best to keep it, especially if there are kids around. Wives and children have no idea of what it's like to live with the beast, but they don't have to. They just have to live with you, it's your job to manage the beast.

You look like you are taking the right steps anyway.

Nah nothing "official" other than the paperwork I have from the doc I talked to at mental health services when I was still active because my SSgt pushed me to seek help after I showed up for morning pt reeking of booze and being very belligerent. In my limited dealings with the VA I don't trust them to make any kind of accurate diagnosis on a cold let alone prescribing meds that could f*ck me up worse.