Xander Haworth
Bronze Member
hey my name is xander i served in afghan and im having alot of problems my anxiety is crazy i cant sleep and stay asleep and im having major resentment twards my family can anybody help?
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Anxiety Sleep Resentment Twards Family
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Heya, Xander. Welcome. We've got quite a few OEF/OIF vets here. Also stretching back to Vietnam.
Yep. There's a lot of help, for exactly those problems -and others- 'cause most of us have either got 'em or had 'em. Read through the forums, for sure, a whole lotta good knowledge kicked back and forth. Tips, tricks, and no bullshit breakdowns. Welcome home.
Yep. There's a lot of help, for exactly those problems -and others- 'cause most of us have either got 'em or had 'em. Read through the forums, for sure, a whole lotta good knowledge kicked back and forth. Tips, tricks, and no bullshit breakdowns. Welcome home.
dutchiedelta
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Hello Xander, welcome here. There is like Friday said, a lot of info on the boards.
Sleep is often a point of attention for most of us. If you can't find an answer, someone is bound to look into things with you.
Do you have therapy or help in another form?
Makes a difference in the approach to answers here.
Sleep is often a point of attention for most of us. If you can't find an answer, someone is bound to look into things with you.
Do you have therapy or help in another form?
Makes a difference in the approach to answers here.
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Welcome Xander,
My anxiety issues escalated until I caved in and went in for some anti-anxiety meds from the VA.
They are still there, but with the help of some meds and exposing myself to uncomfortable situations for
small amounts of time. Start out 5-10 mins, leave. Do that until it feels you can stay longer and so forth.
Just use the search function on the top right type in, "Anxiety" and dive in the archives.
Lots of information on here.
Feel free to shoot a PM as well.
Black.
My anxiety issues escalated until I caved in and went in for some anti-anxiety meds from the VA.
They are still there, but with the help of some meds and exposing myself to uncomfortable situations for
small amounts of time. Start out 5-10 mins, leave. Do that until it feels you can stay longer and so forth.
Just use the search function on the top right type in, "Anxiety" and dive in the archives.
Lots of information on here.
Feel free to shoot a PM as well.
Black.
Welcome Xander and thank you for your service.
Anxiety sleep issues are common with PTSD. I assume that you have been diagnosed with PTSD, if not you should see someone at the VA. There are many resources for sleep disorders based on anxiety. Lots of stuff to read on this forum as well. Take a knee brother.
Ba
Anxiety sleep issues are common with PTSD. I assume that you have been diagnosed with PTSD, if not you should see someone at the VA. There are many resources for sleep disorders based on anxiety. Lots of stuff to read on this forum as well. Take a knee brother.
Ba
Hey Xander
Welcome to the forums, great people and a ton of info. Firstly, if you're suffering with anxiety you've got to do something to get that under control. Initially, some meds may be helpful to take the edge off of that. That in itself might help your sleep problems. You've gotta' look at solving a bunch of problems but you can only really do that one at a time. If you're not in therapy, either individual or group, for your PTSD, you want to get involved in that. That will be the most important part of solving all the specific problems you're experiencing. You can't do it all at once or expect it to just go away quickly. It takes some time and you've got to hang in there and work at it for a while. It can get better.
If after a time you're still experiencing sleep problems there is CBT for Insomnia. A therapy that I found the most helpful in getting and maintaining good sleep quality. So, I know this is one of your first experiences here and I won't inundate you with more info that this. You've found a place where people listen and help. Welcome and I'm glad you made it back home.
JarHed
Welcome to the forums, great people and a ton of info. Firstly, if you're suffering with anxiety you've got to do something to get that under control. Initially, some meds may be helpful to take the edge off of that. That in itself might help your sleep problems. You've gotta' look at solving a bunch of problems but you can only really do that one at a time. If you're not in therapy, either individual or group, for your PTSD, you want to get involved in that. That will be the most important part of solving all the specific problems you're experiencing. You can't do it all at once or expect it to just go away quickly. It takes some time and you've got to hang in there and work at it for a while. It can get better.
If after a time you're still experiencing sleep problems there is CBT for Insomnia. A therapy that I found the most helpful in getting and maintaining good sleep quality. So, I know this is one of your first experiences here and I won't inundate you with more info that this. You've found a place where people listen and help. Welcome and I'm glad you made it back home.
JarHed
OldDoorGunner
Diamond Member
Welcome Xander,
I am one of the old Nam vets, not much I can add here, as it's been said. Watch the videos, take your time and read the info here in the forum......With some hard work and some time, things will get better......Small steps, always small steps...
J R
I am one of the old Nam vets, not much I can add here, as it's been said. Watch the videos, take your time and read the info here in the forum......With some hard work and some time, things will get better......Small steps, always small steps...
J R
And get and talk to a Doc. ASAP.
I like most of us, I tried to ignore the sleep issues for years. Trust me when I say this not something easily dealt with on your own. Hell, I tried to gut out the Beast on my own and now I'm literally brain damaged. Not trying to scare you, but seek help however you can. Most of us can agree here that the Beast is not to ignored. You risk things far much worse than panic attacks and loss of sleep.
Learn from the old farts on here, they will not steer you wrong.
If you can't stand dealing with the VA find your local DAV (Disabled American Veterans) and they will do it for you. (There are other veteran service organizations, but I did not have the option to work with them.
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Xander Haworth
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ya i love listening to the old vets because they have the most experience. but there are alot of guys out there who never saw combat and try to say they can relate. my grandpa was in the air force. he never deployed never saw combat never shot a gun never knew how to shoot a gun. all he knew was how to turn a wrench. well he trys to say he can relate to me well that is bull because he might have as well been a civilian. or even vets now just getting out that are not combat guys. if you werent combat orintated then you have no idea. there are guys who go over there and never leave the wire and say they are combat vets from the war. i live in arizona its a desert same thing as over there so they might have as wel been in the states in a desert. where i was deployed at we were in the winter so it was snowy and we where high in the mountians so we had pine trees. so it was a little diffrent but i live in a desert so i know what its like to have 120+ degrees.
combatgoldfish
Diamond Member
Welcome.
Best sleep advice I could give you. Don't use the booze to sleep. That shit will kill your REM.
If you're willing to try meds, an anti anxiety prescription could work or sleep meds such as ambien. Melatonin is a good alternative to pills since its natural.
Get a dog if you don't have one.
Get a good bed. Tempedic worth every penny.
Best sleep advice I could give you. Don't use the booze to sleep. That shit will kill your REM.
If you're willing to try meds, an anti anxiety prescription could work or sleep meds such as ambien. Melatonin is a good alternative to pills since its natural.
Get a dog if you don't have one.
Get a good bed. Tempedic worth every penny.
Xander,
I understand your frustration with people you don't believe understand. Most of us have been through that. IMHO, you need to remember a few things, not everyone's PTSD/anxiety is the same, just like not everyone's deployment is the same. You will have ground pounders that never saw true threat when they were over in theater, but you will have staffers that saw death and destruction on a daily basis. Please be slow to judge others...that is hard to do.
Your Gandpa may not have seen combat, but it sounds like he is trying to be there for you. If the words "I understand" annoys you, then tell him that but keep communicating with him. He may not have been there, but he may have know those that were and truly does understand in his way what you are going through. If he is willing to listen, be willing to talk. An ally in the family is great to have.
I second all the other comments. Remember it is a slow process to get your self back in shape.
I understand your frustration with people you don't believe understand. Most of us have been through that. IMHO, you need to remember a few things, not everyone's PTSD/anxiety is the same, just like not everyone's deployment is the same. You will have ground pounders that never saw true threat when they were over in theater, but you will have staffers that saw death and destruction on a daily basis. Please be slow to judge others...that is hard to do.
Your Gandpa may not have seen combat, but it sounds like he is trying to be there for you. If the words "I understand" annoys you, then tell him that but keep communicating with him. He may not have been there, but he may have know those that were and truly does understand in his way what you are going through. If he is willing to listen, be willing to talk. An ally in the family is great to have.
I second all the other comments. Remember it is a slow process to get your self back in shape.
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