Has anyone close to you accused you of being a sociopath? I got that one recently and was obv put off by it. This person said I was a sociopath because I "don't feel empathy" and "dislike animals". It feels like a misunderstanding of some of the parts PTSD but still was quite the insult. Anyone else had that?
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Um...accused of being a sociopath?
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Were those comments based solely on a diagnosis of PTSD? Wtf!
Stephernovas
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lol some people are poor at using words, which basically means they are uneducated. I'm assuming this individual is threatened by you in some way - most likely an animal lover. I don't think it was nothing more than an effort to make you feel bad for not sharing the same beliefs/interests said person does
While I do love animals, I see a huge tendency of people putting animals rights before children's rights and that really irks me. Some people are over the top animal lovers to an unhealthy level so... If you don't have a desire to hurt animals, but at the same time don't have a desire to start a campaign to save an endangered species or be responsible for a pet, nothing wrong with that.
Could you clarify about the empathy part though.
Could you clarify about the empathy part though.
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Because I supposedly "don't show any remorse".
Stephernovas
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Also, please consider the individual making this 'assessment'. Are they qualified? I mean if I was a psychologist I'd be pretty annoyed that for all the schooling I've gone through to APPROPRIATELY assess people, that you're listening to someone's off the cuff remark that was probably perpetuated from an emotional response to something you've said/didn't say, did or didn't do.
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I've been called every name in the book by someone, at some point. Sociopath is one of the ones I mind least, in part because it's halfway accurate, and in part because it's just fun to play with.
...Only on special occasions, darlin' :sneaky: (sometime with the addendum of "Oh look! It's -St. Bridget's Day, Secretaries Day, Domestic Violence Awareness Month, etc.- We're in luck!)
...With your address & telephone number ;)
...Oh how sweet of you to be concerned about how I sleep at night. Little creepy, but it takes all kinds, and clearly, you mean well. :inlove: > :bored: If I catch you watching me sleep at night we're going to have a problem. Understand? Boundaries. :D Alright then! Good talk.
Other times I just ask if they're a sociologist, a criminal, or an idiot? No psychologist uses the term sociopath, so since they're clearly not in any way educated or licensed to diagnose, which are they? Sociologist, criminal, or idiot?
...Et cetera
When people give me free rein to f*ck with them by being an asshole? I try to take it as a gift.
...Only on special occasions, darlin' :sneaky: (sometime with the addendum of "Oh look! It's -St. Bridget's Day, Secretaries Day, Domestic Violence Awareness Month, etc.- We're in luck!)
...With your address & telephone number ;)
...Oh how sweet of you to be concerned about how I sleep at night. Little creepy, but it takes all kinds, and clearly, you mean well. :inlove: > :bored: If I catch you watching me sleep at night we're going to have a problem. Understand? Boundaries. :D Alright then! Good talk.
Other times I just ask if they're a sociologist, a criminal, or an idiot? No psychologist uses the term sociopath, so since they're clearly not in any way educated or licensed to diagnose, which are they? Sociologist, criminal, or idiot?
...Et cetera
When people give me free rein to f*ck with them by being an asshole? I try to take it as a gift.
Thanks for the clarification, I wasn't sure if it was based on something you said to them or an ASSumption on their part. Sounds like the later. I am sorry, that must have hurt. It is actually a brilliant way to hurt someone who is very empathetic.
@Friday, one day I am going to learn and put your wise ways into action.
@Friday, one day I am going to learn and put your wise ways into action.
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I don't feel like liking animals gives you some sort of free pass at being a good human being... I mean sheesh, lol. Where did that belief come from anyway? Animals are cute and all that but they're really just stinky chores to me. Maybe thats harsh but I'm sorry... I don't like flowers either... so I choose not to have them...
Blah, whatever.
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Thank you friends. I appreciate all of your thoughtful replies. Your support really helps... this place is awesome. I'm blessed to have this community of people who truly "get it" or at least know how important it is to try.
Gamera3000
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Lots of people don't have animals. Most people who don't like animals pretend to like them. When I was a young person I seriously did not like children. Probably from having an autistic little brother when I was an impatient teenager. I had to pretend to like babies and kids for years, and people saw right through me. As I got older I changed my mind. I now have my own son and I discovered that I get a big kick out of kids. I used to not like dogs either but now I do. I'm not saying you will change your mind , just that as a current kid and dog person, I do remember not being into either.
I suggest that you keep not liking animals to yourself (in real life). I have a long explanation behind this, but you probably don't want to read all that. Let me know if you do and I can explain it. If it comes up, I would say something like you said in your post, "animals are cute, but I'm sensitive to the way they smell" or you can pretend to be allergic.
Accusing other people of not having empathy has been this new hot thing for a few years. I had to research empathy for some graduate school thing I was doing a couple years ago. It turns out that there is conflicting data as to what empathy IS, and we as a common person can't say whether each of us has a little, a lot, or any at all. Also, what function it really serves. So we definitely cannot determine, as common people, how much any other given person might have. I also have a lengthy(er) explanation about that if anyone is interested. So it's ignorance that anyone would say that to you, but honestly it's an easy thing to be ignorant about. Right now society encourages ignorance about empathy.
I don't know what to tell you about a person who says that to you. It's happened to me, several times. I have severed the relationship each time. I'm not sure that's the right thing to do or not. Someone wiser should advise you on that. :/
I suggest that you keep not liking animals to yourself (in real life). I have a long explanation behind this, but you probably don't want to read all that. Let me know if you do and I can explain it. If it comes up, I would say something like you said in your post, "animals are cute, but I'm sensitive to the way they smell" or you can pretend to be allergic.
Accusing other people of not having empathy has been this new hot thing for a few years. I had to research empathy for some graduate school thing I was doing a couple years ago. It turns out that there is conflicting data as to what empathy IS, and we as a common person can't say whether each of us has a little, a lot, or any at all. Also, what function it really serves. So we definitely cannot determine, as common people, how much any other given person might have. I also have a lengthy(er) explanation about that if anyone is interested. So it's ignorance that anyone would say that to you, but honestly it's an easy thing to be ignorant about. Right now society encourages ignorance about empathy.
I don't know what to tell you about a person who says that to you. It's happened to me, several times. I have severed the relationship each time. I'm not sure that's the right thing to do or not. Someone wiser should advise you on that. :/
EveHarrington
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People can be idiots. (Nobody here.)
There is a HUGE difference between not liking animals and sadistically torturing them and killing them.
HUGE!
Not liking animals doesn't make you a sociopath. Sadistically killing them for pleasure, on the other hand, does.
I was the same way with kids for the longest time. Everyone thought they were so cute. I just look at them and think OMG, all that work! Well, I still do to an extent, but at least now I can have fun with other people's kids.....and send them right back to mommy when they get cranky!
There is a HUGE difference between not liking animals and sadistically torturing them and killing them.
HUGE!
Not liking animals doesn't make you a sociopath. Sadistically killing them for pleasure, on the other hand, does.
I was the same way with kids for the longest time. Everyone thought they were so cute. I just look at them and think OMG, all that work! Well, I still do to an extent, but at least now I can have fun with other people's kids.....and send them right back to mommy when they get cranky!
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