Feeling abandonment coming - husband & therapist out of town for 2 weeks.

[loui50]

Halfway there and im really struggling. I am crying for hours each morning after the kids go to school. I pull it together before i pick my little girl up at 1130. I feel horrible. I miss hubs so much. I keep saying its only a week (typo in title i cant change) im not use to being away from him at all. He normally works from home so hes always here. I need a hug from him so badly. Should have had t yesterday but shes gone too. Luckily not desire to self harm so far. Im on the down hill run. I keep trying to tell myself that.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I feel horrible. I miss hubs so much.

I understand loving someone and the awful pain of grieving over their absence. He is coming back to you, you are only temporarily separated from him and your T.

After you feel the intense emotional pain and allow yourself the space to fully hurt, try doing something that you like to try and get your mind focused on something else for a break. Tell yourself that you are being brave but you are going to live and this pain will not kill you.

Four years ago my husband of thirty six years died and I can relate to your missing your husband but he has not died so you can be creative in planning a welcome home for him to tell him all that he means to you and how much you love him while he is still here with you.

You are married so he is really not far away from you really. This is for a very short time and it is a good time for you to think of expanding your life so that you begin to have other interests to occupy you when you are temporarily separated again.

You are missing him true, but you have not yet lost him.:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

 

[deeplyloved]

This is so, so hard. You are amazing and strong and resilient. You are doing it. One hour at a time. Keep posting and letting us know how you are.

 

[Sandstone]

Yes, you are doing it, you can do it. You are acknowledging your feelings and then moving on through the day. Be proud of yourself.

 

[loui50]

Im losing it. I asked my husband to.come home early and he cant get his flight changed. I need some encouragement.

 

[Sandstone]

Tell me more about it. What is the particular bit you feel you can't do?

 

[loui50]

Tell me more about it. What is the particular bit you feel you can't do?

Im just missing him so badly. I cry every morning the whole time the kids are at school. Im missing both of their thanksgiving feasts because my daughter has to be picked up right when my sons feast starts. Normally daddy would go to one and i would go to the other. Im so anxiuos. The kids fought all the way home from school yesterday. It pushed me over the edge. All over where the teddy bear was goingbtonsit in the car. I just need a break from full time mom duty and i need a hug from my husband.

 

[loui50]

I made it. Hubs is home. T on tuesday. Im a wreck, but i survived. Im relaxing today with the family. Thanks everyone for your support.

 

[Sandstone]

You survived!!! Well done