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Why is it arrogance?
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@PURUSHA I'm 'late to the party' here and must run so this is brief, but I think it's ideal to feel comfortable in your own skin, and to me that's different than ego, or insecurity.
Also differences are nice. And to be frank, looks do go farther than skin deep.
But just a thought- can't recall the official name of the technique but meant to mention it on another thread of yours because I (just personally) find it helpful, it is to go deeper by asking questions and following where each leads (I think the hard part is forming the questions). [eg, this bothers me how? why? and that is because I believe.. and I believe (x) because.., etc].
I think anything that helps or is progress is huge. Look how big a mustard seed grows.
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Also differences are nice. And to be frank, looks do go farther than skin deep.
But just a thought- can't recall the official name of the technique but meant to mention it on another thread of yours because I (just personally) find it helpful, it is to go deeper by asking questions and following where each leads (I think the hard part is forming the questions). [eg, this bothers me how? why? and that is because I believe.. and I believe (x) because.., etc].
I think anything that helps or is progress is huge. Look how big a mustard seed grows.
:hug:
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Ever heard the old joke : How many kinds of drivers are on the road?
2. Maniacs & Morons.
Maniacs = Everyone that drives faster than you.
Morons = Everyone who drives slower than you.
Arrogance or self confidence? Eye of the beholder.
Unless they meant arrogant in that you had to put them down in order to lift yourself up. IE it's not enough that you like the way you look, not even about that at all, but had to put them down in the process. But that's a more subtle thing, and may not be translating correctly.
2. Maniacs & Morons.
Maniacs = Everyone that drives faster than you.
Morons = Everyone who drives slower than you.
Arrogance or self confidence? Eye of the beholder.
Unless they meant arrogant in that you had to put them down in order to lift yourself up. IE it's not enough that you like the way you look, not even about that at all, but had to put them down in the process. But that's a more subtle thing, and may not be translating correctly.
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Oh never said its enough.
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I have recently started back on Facebook and Insta, with a limited number of friends who are actually friends IRL (gasp). Making a point of occasionally sharing pics of me, as I actually am, doing things that I really do? Has been really helpful for my self concept. Because my friends give me positive feedback about it.
It wasn’t all that long ago that I was a Facebook hater. But keeping it real, amongst people who I know accept me for who I am? Has helped me accept who I am.
Liking ourselves isn’t an easy task. If you can pay yourself a compliment, or even just utter a few words of self acceptance occasionally? You’re doing something right, and you should feel proud of yourself. It doesn’t matter whether that’s to do with how you look, or any other quality.
The amount of messaging that we get pummeled with through the media on how we can improve ourselves, particularly our looks - it’s a wonder that we aren’t all completely overwhelmed with self-loathing.
It wasn’t all that long ago that I was a Facebook hater. But keeping it real, amongst people who I know accept me for who I am? Has helped me accept who I am.
Liking ourselves isn’t an easy task. If you can pay yourself a compliment, or even just utter a few words of self acceptance occasionally? You’re doing something right, and you should feel proud of yourself. It doesn’t matter whether that’s to do with how you look, or any other quality.
The amount of messaging that we get pummeled with through the media on how we can improve ourselves, particularly our looks - it’s a wonder that we aren’t all completely overwhelmed with self-loathing.
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It's awesome that you feel good about your appearance. Mom's and dads that feel good about themselves are able to spread that positivity to their kids
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Some days I look very average ha! Some day's I look ok! I don't try to do either. I am worried about social media for a lot of reason's and there is a big issue with young and old & all gender's trying to live up to some 'ideal'. Who set's the 'ideal' and why? Is this what the OP is about? I am not sure.
I know a person who has a massive scar running from the hair-line diagonally across the entire face. At first I felt really self-conscious because I saw the scar and not the person (how shallow is that?) and I worried how he had gone through his life with this really big scar.
That lasted about 5 minutes.
I have known this person for about two decade's now. I don't see the scar anymore. In fact upon reflection (no pun intended) if someone asked me to describe him quite possibly I would describe his wonderful smiling eye's and his beautiful smile but mostly I would describe his fabulous sense of humour, profound thinking and intelligence and his deep confident and reassuring voice. I could go on and on.
The point I am trying to make is I learned, even as an adult myself (when I should have already known this) that 'look's' have absolutely nothing to do with value, confidence, intelligence, kindness and success...unless we let them be so.
I know a person who has a massive scar running from the hair-line diagonally across the entire face. At first I felt really self-conscious because I saw the scar and not the person (how shallow is that?) and I worried how he had gone through his life with this really big scar.
That lasted about 5 minutes.
I have known this person for about two decade's now. I don't see the scar anymore. In fact upon reflection (no pun intended) if someone asked me to describe him quite possibly I would describe his wonderful smiling eye's and his beautiful smile but mostly I would describe his fabulous sense of humour, profound thinking and intelligence and his deep confident and reassuring voice. I could go on and on.
The point I am trying to make is I learned, even as an adult myself (when I should have already known this) that 'look's' have absolutely nothing to do with value, confidence, intelligence, kindness and success...unless we let them be so.
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