I only just saw this thread.
11 months ago almost to the day I was sexually assaulted ( raped) by a women, a friend I had met on line, known awhile, had many shared acquaintances with, a couple of friends and a confusing other situation.
The last night after a stressful day she assaulted me starting in my sleep. It's not my ptsd trigger but it's confusingly involved in it.
Because it's a women on woman violation a rape kit I thought would gave no worth and a third party ( who was the ptsd trigger) talked me out if reporting to the police the next day and said I must stay friends with her. I did for several weeks before accepting j could not.
The simple and sad resolve to this story is that I reported to the police By coincidence exactly six months after it hapoened. Reporting was not straightforward but list me lots of supporting acquaintances who felt I was making this up. I had to report to two sets of police. The first were dreadful,( believed me but were sort of... Well what did you expect ) the second fantastic, supportive and were believing. I just wanted to report but because of certain aspects of the sexual assault it had to go forward to investigation. This was not helpful in a way because if gave false hope of justice which in reality I knew was not a possibility.
Reporting and belief from police and DA office gave me the closure I needed from this incident.
There is despairingly little acceptance of female predation. The best statistical support is from assault in lesbian relationships ( stats on RAINN.org) which makes sad reading for our gender.
It doesn’t matter if you ate straight or gay imo; who you fall in love with at the end should just treat you well and be treated well. women are people; in a world where we have asked our equality is respected we have to accept this means we are also equally able to do the bad stuff. :(