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My male boss is in his late 50s. I’m in my early 20s (21).
I started working for the company around November. Before November, I would cater for them. He would hug me and kiss my cheeks (I assume ppl who saw thought it was fatherly, but it was really just uncomfortable). I never spoke up about my discomfort w his actions. I was really desperate for a job. Once I got the job. A private conversation w him sometimes consisted of me saying “I’m tired.” And he would say, “from what? Having a lot of sex?” And I would just say uh no.
He kept on like touching me and I was uncomfortable almost all the time.
I actually never felt confident to be around him.
Eventually, he harass me for some pictures. Some sexy provocative pics I was always hesistant saying no.
And showing him my cross necklace or prayer hand charm around my neck saying no I’m conservative and Christian. (No offense to anyone).
Whenever he got the chance and we were alone he would keep persisting for me to do it in a subtle way and he kept ”complimenting” me saying that you must have nice breast and my body feels so firm (since he would put his hands around the area between my hips and lower chest) (always uncomfortable) (I would push away a lot, but he still came on to me). His persistent on the pictures made it hard to say an indefinite no and every time he would ask me it was not a no any longer. The reason being his pressuring me as my superior the person who allows me to get paid and keep my job kept basically harassing me for these pics and I didn’t know what to do. I was scared to get fired too. I was naive also. I told him I would be interested in more conservative pictures and he said that I could take a drink and would loosen up. He told me about his ex gfs being 31 years old. He showed me some of her nudes they weren’t explicit or like dirty. Just nudes and I didn’t look much. Everything happened so fast and idk why I didn’t just run out of the office and out of the place. He was manipulative over me. He saw some of my IG pics that I showed him when showing him I was conservative and only interested in pics as such. But he said that I should wear lingerie and booty liners and he asked me if i had any. I said I knew what they were. He said show me like asking me to pull my pants down basically and I said no. I know what they are.. and then after he said not to tell anyone and just secrecy. Finally when the door opened I left and went to the bathroom shaken and uncomfortable and feeling ashamed. Someone I spoke to said it wasn’t my fault because bad he never asked me or pressured me or put me in that situation nothing would have happened. I want to know what you think and no I quit my job and I’m not going to report it. He has a lot of money and influence.
My male boss is in his late 50s. I’m in my early 20s (21).
I started working for the company around November. Before November, I would cater for them. He would hug me and kiss my cheeks (I assume ppl who saw thought it was fatherly, but it was really just uncomfortable). I never spoke up about my discomfort w his actions. I was really desperate for a job. Once I got the job. A private conversation w him sometimes consisted of me saying “I’m tired.” And he would say, “from what? Having a lot of sex?” And I would just say uh no.
He kept on like touching me and I was uncomfortable almost all the time.
I actually never felt confident to be around him.
Eventually, he harass me for some pictures. Some sexy provocative pics I was always hesistant saying no.
And showing him my cross necklace or prayer hand charm around my neck saying no I’m conservative and Christian. (No offense to anyone).
Whenever he got the chance and we were alone he would keep persisting for me to do it in a subtle way and he kept ”complimenting” me saying that you must have nice breast and my body feels so firm (since he would put his hands around the area between my hips and lower chest) (always uncomfortable) (I would push away a lot, but he still came on to me). His persistent on the pictures made it hard to say an indefinite no and every time he would ask me it was not a no any longer. The reason being his pressuring me as my superior the person who allows me to get paid and keep my job kept basically harassing me for these pics and I didn’t know what to do. I was scared to get fired too. I was naive also. I told him I would be interested in more conservative pictures and he said that I could take a drink and would loosen up. He told me about his ex gfs being 31 years old. He showed me some of her nudes they weren’t explicit or like dirty. Just nudes and I didn’t look much. Everything happened so fast and idk why I didn’t just run out of the office and out of the place. He was manipulative over me. He saw some of my IG pics that I showed him when showing him I was conservative and only interested in pics as such. But he said that I should wear lingerie and booty liners and he asked me if i had any. I said I knew what they were. He said show me like asking me to pull my pants down basically and I said no. I know what they are.. and then after he said not to tell anyone and just secrecy. Finally when the door opened I left and went to the bathroom shaken and uncomfortable and feeling ashamed. Someone I spoke to said it wasn’t my fault because bad he never asked me or pressured me or put me in that situation nothing would have happened. I want to know what you think and no I quit my job and I’m not going to report it. He has a lot of money and influence.