Help, i think i’m being neglected/abused - urgently need input

[CrossingMyLine]

I’ve been struggling with some “things” that never made sense before, and now I have a plausible reason. Autism Spectrum Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder-Combined type, and Complex PTSD. I have a much better handle on why I have C-PTSD it seems. When I informed my family of the assessment results, the only one who responded popped off with “get a new therapist?” When I asked my sister about it, she (probably intended to continue repressing me) told me that my family has always marginalized my needs and instead of helping me they ridiculed and used me like a fekking f’ed up chess piece. I don’t know if my disorders are so debilitating that I can not trust how I feel or if my suspicion that this is a case of child neglect and endangerment that then became the systematic persecution of me because I’m not normal. I feel like I took crazy pills. This seems so unreal and I’m seriously LOSING MY SH*T. Please, any LEOs or other peeps with this sort of experience, please validate and/or share your wisdom. Please. I feel like I need to hospitalize myself just to protect myself from these Machiavellian sycophants. Oh, did I mention that there is money at the heart of this?

 

[digger]

Hi @CrossingMyLine, the response from your family feels sounds really invalidating for you. Would you mind clarifying, are you still a minor and living with these family members, or does this...

or if my suspicion that this is a case of child neglect and endangerment that then became the systematic persecution of me

...mean you feel that you were neglected as a child and that this current invalidation feels like a continuation of that neglect now that you are an adult?

 

[Sideways8]

First and for most how old are you? Second if your new this diagnosis it can be extremely overwhelming. Wait a few days let it sink in. People dont always react the way WE think they should.

 

[Muttly]

Hi, we can't tell you for sure what's going on with your family but it did sound like you got some validation from your sister. Do you have a therapist? A therapist can help you sort out what's real or not too. I needed that. I am also curious, if you are still a minor

 

[EveHarrington]

I’m confused as parts indicate you’re under age while other parts indicate you’re an adult.

If you’re an adult now, unless you’re have a legal guardian, neglect is off the table.

 

[Mach123]

I've been reading this stuff a long time now and developed a sardonic sense of humor? The last two sentences cracked me up all over the place. The problem with telling the "Machiavellian sycophants" is they usually think "weakness," in my experience, and now they have you by the you know whats, and everytime you open your mouth they will be rolling their eyes and going, "here we go again." So, get used to it. I don't tell anybody anything unless it's "need to know." Sympathy is in short supply, especially where "money is involved." : )

 

[Justmehere]

. Please, any LEOs or other peeps with this sort of experience, please validate and/or share your wisdom.

Does LEO stands for Law Enforcement Officer? (This is an international forum, so I want to be sure I am guessing right.) Or do you mean the Zodiac sign...?

I'd suggest not looking to your family for support if you suspect them of child abuse and neglect of you when you were young. It's a tough thing to face.

 

[CrossingMyLine]

Hi @CrossingMyLine, the response from your family feels sounds really invalidating fo...

Sorry everyone, I am 49. The neglect and endangerment was when I was a minor. I had no idea how ill I was (autism?) and my family treats me like an annoying simpleton. The abuse I was referring to now has been from my sister. She seems to be emotionally abusing me and keeps me isolated from my family and friends. The problem is that even if I disown my family, I still have ties to them through family Trusts. I have to figure out how to get away from them!

I've been reading this stuff a long time now and developed a sardonic sense of humor? The last two sen...

Very true. Thx

Does LEO stands for Law Enforcement Officer? (This is an international forum, so I want to be sure I...

Yes, law enforcement, sorry! My cognitive deficits get bad when I’m stressed. Yes, I know. And yes, it’s not easy. I have noticed that since I decided to disown them my symptoms have diminished dramatically! Apparently somewhere in my mind I must have figured something was wrong.

I’m confused as parts indicate you’re under age while other parts indicate you’re an adult....

Thanks for the information. I mentioned to another person that I am 49 and the neglect was when I was a child, and none of my family tried to help me. Even when I was asking around for childhood symptoms (severely lacking a memory of it) no one would tell me anything significant. It’s pretty devastating.

Hi, we can't tell you for sure what's going on with your family but it did sound like you got some valid...

I wouldn’t say that she validated me, I’d say it was more like raging at me about how I was over 18 and therefore did not merit help. She got worse and I hung up. I have since terminated direct communications with them. Thx

First and for most how old are you? Second if your new this diagnosis it can be extremely overwhelming. Wait a few d...

Their behavior has been baffling me! Thanks for the suggestion.

 

[Muttly]

Hi. To clarify what I meant, I wasn't saying your sister validated you as a person. I was saying it seemed your sister stated there were problems in you family. it seemed you were asking if your family neglected and mistreated you? And if I'm reading it right, your sister agreed hey did.

When I asked my sister about it, she (probably intended to continue repressing me) told me that my family has always marginalized my needs and instead of helping me they ridiculed and used me like a fekking f’ed up chess pie

It's a hard place to be in. I have cut contact with my family and understand there's a lot of pain, struggle and also relief.

 

[CrossingMyLine]

Hi @CrossingMyLine, the response from your family feels sounds really invalidating fo...

Yes. I was neglected as a child and was emotionally, sexually, and physically abused. I think that my unacknowledged & untreated developmental disabilities (allowed?) them to justify their behavior. Now when I email them about the Trust they respond with impatience and frustration. And I usually don’t get the information that I’m asking about. I realize that I may be more sensitive than most people, but even my husband thinks that there’s something fishy going on. I just don’t know what options I have to protect myself & my inheritance. Sorry if I seem very confused or disjointed but my deficits have been exacerbated by this.

Hi. To clarify what I meant, I wasn't saying your sister validated you as a person. I was saying it seem...

Thanks for the clarification. It’s sad, but I miss my idea of the people more than the actual people! Most of my close family is dead now; it’s like mourning them again. Gratefully, people here seem more like family than my family does.

 

[littleoc]

I don’t have any advice, but sending hugs your way.

Dealing with people who treat you like an idiot is the worst.

 

[PTSDin it]

I’ve been struggling with some “things” that never made sense before, and now I have a pla...

I'm sorry you are losing your sh*#t. I can completely relate to not feeling like my family was there for me...hope you're doing better!