Relationship I’ve left him and he doesn’t care

[Sighs]

I know what I’m legally entitled to. I also know what I think is fair.

He’s playing nice because we both know I can take way more than I’m asking for. But I’m asking for what I think is fair.

 

[dulcia]

I know what I’m legally entitled to. I also know what I think is fair.

He’s playing nice because we...

You're my freaking idol.

 

[shimmerz]

Three forbidden things in one photo! A ring, had manicure (not allowed to spend money on myself) and blue nails (not traditional)!

The only other person I know of who dictates nail colour is this person....

Meghan Markle Followed the Queen's Nail Polish Rule for the Royal Wedding

He isn't royalty - is he?

All kidding aside, I am really happy you are out of there. I was honestly worried about you. Think of all you can do with that energy that was put into him, now that he isn't sucking you dry anymore! Well done Sighs. Congratulations!

 

[Sighs]

:roflmao::roflmao::roflmao:

I used to call him His Majesty behind his back!

 

[shimmerz]

His Majesty behind his back

Seems quite apropos does it not? I read through all of this posting and many of your others and it is kind of the way he seems to feel about himself.

Now, funnel that energy you spent on him - and start taking care of yourself the way you used to take care of him. Don't forget to appreciate yourself for being the kick ass kind, caring, loving, strong, capable, clever, resourceful woman that you are.

 

[Sighs]

Feeling very down tonight. Feeling like I’ll never find someone who loves me. Feeling like that ship has well and truly sailed... maybe he’s right maybe I was the problem all along. Just can’t believe he’s ready to move on and start all over. I can’t imagine dating ever again!

 

[somerandomguy]

I can’t imagine dating ever again!

I understand. Give yourself a break if you can. I think it's totally normal to feel that way after any kind of a breakup.

But this is a great time to focus on yourself! You can literally do everything that you always wanted to do but couldn't because you were dragging that weight around!

 

[shimmerz]

maybe he’s right maybe I was the problem all along.

No. He is disconnected from everything Sighs. Not just you. That's why he is ready to move on. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. From all you have said here that I have seen he is an energy vampire and luckily you escaped.

Maybe it is time to find you for a while and really practice loving yourself and your beautiful puppy.

You are enough. You always have been.

 

[LuckiLee]

You weren't allowed your own bath water! Nuff said?

I know you're heartbroken right now but you did the right thing, @Sighs. He can move on because he has no feelings for anything /anyone. It's not you, hun.

You're feeling everything you should be feeling. The grieving process sucks but you'll get through it like everyone else does.

There are many reasons you left him and only a handful of reasons you stayed. Try to remember that.

You'll find the right guy don't even worry about that right now. Worry about you and puppy. Go do something FUN this weekend.

XO

 

[Freida]

maybe he’s right maybe I was the problem all along.

I hate,hate,hate that he made you believe this. This is NOT ptsd. This is being a total ass hat. This is using you as an excuse for his bad behavior. This is abuse. This is the kind of crap he would have done even if he didn't have ptsd.

He made you doubt yourself as a way to control you --- because that's what abusers do - and then he made you feel sorry for him because "oh you poor thing...once upon a time you had a bad event"
It makes me angry because there are so many of us on this site who lived through horrible things and we would NEVER treat our supporters like this. Can I be a huge pain in the ass and a raving bitch and totally unreliable sometimes? Yep. Do I have to destroy someone else to make myself feel better? No. He doesn't get to use ptsd as an excuse. You don't have to accept that as an excuse anymore.

You will find someone else because you are a kind, loving person and you deserve happiness. You just need to remember that part of you. The part of you that existed before him. The part that is still there - after him. The part he couldn't take away

 

[dulcia]

Once you start to love yourself again, you might just be surprised what (or who) you find :hug:

 

[Ronin]

Feeling like that ship has well and truly sailed.

Come, sit in my corner of truly sailed ships...

I will keep talking of At least we got to keep Our Goddamn Ships yet next year, and you know what they say of gay dudes and awesome chicks near them, the lady gets someone sooner than the weird geek trying to cheer her up. :) :sneaky: