Don’t maintain friendships

[purple butterfly]

Wondering how many others find that they don’t have the energy to maintain friendships. I have ‘work friends’ but only 2 other friends I maintain regular contact with.

 

[Rani G2]

how many others find that they don’t have the energy to maintain friendships.

@purple butterfly I dont and I struggle with humans in general. Never had a friend and I find being socially active very tiring.

 

[RVA21]

Yes I struggle with this very much, same reason as you - I don't have the energy. Feels like trauma has just completely wrecked my whole body - inside and out.

 

[purple butterfly]

I sometimes crave for company but at exactly the same time don,t have the motivation.

 

[Justmehere]

Do you struggle with depression?

 

[Friday]

Yep. Maintaining friendships takes time and energy. Even if I’m not isolating, I may be isolated, simply because I have to very carefully choose how/where I spend my time and energy.

 

[Ronin]

I don’t have the energy, but that is one of the areas I try, anyway.

as in on most count, health can bite me, friends / chosen families matter.

Spent so goddamn long with minimal contact to DV nonsense I’m gonna fix straight what I can, now.

 

[EveHarrington]

My boyfriend is my only friend right now. I know some say he doesn’t count as a friend, but given how many people aren’t friends with their partner, I say it counts.

I require an insane amount of alone time so yeah, I don’t have time for anything other than casual friends.

 

[Cypress]

I force myself to do one social thing a week. I'm anxious all day before I go, anxious during, and relieved after. Sometimes my social thing is just going to a drop-in group exercise or art class, sometimes I have lunch with a work colleague. That seems like enough to me but my T thinks I need to work on building friendships - which is terrifying- due to difficulty trusting, irrational fears of being "seen". Maybe someday.

 

[MrMoonlight]

I do very poorly with maintaining friendships/relationships. I keep people just out of reach of me in an effort to protect myself. The isolation friday mentions is also a part. I want friendships and possibly more but all my energy is going into me right now. I'm under a ton trying to process my traumas and getting my life straight. Reading other peoples trauma progress on this site is taxing to some degree too. I want to be there for so many but only have limited energy in that area. Maybe that's a cop-out, I don't know.

Maybe I'm just scared.

 

[Teasel]

Core beliefs get in the way for me too, believing people wouldn't want to know me or dont like me etc. Difficulty trusting too. I wanna work on that for sure as I really want friends.

 

[frogthroat]

Yeah, I don't have friends. The whole relationship thing is much too confusing and distressing to me. I talk with people at work and that's about it. It's not something I feel like is important right now.