DID Communication?

[AlishaK]

Hello,

I am wondering if there is either someone like me, or someone who used to be like me, who knows of their other parts because they have come out in therapy, but has zero communication. All I experience is missing time. Sometimes I miss the whole weekend, sometimes it's just parts of days. I have multiple ANPs, but don't know them, and have multiple EPs, that as far as I know, are small children. I have heard that leaving notes around the house can open communication, but it doesn't seem to be working. I also have a phobia of other parts because I don't have any interest in remember more trauma. What trauma I do remember is enough. I don't want more....

 

[Skywatcher]

Are you sure it is DID? Only asking because a friend of mine used to lose time and it was determined that it was from a brain injury that he had suffered in a car accident. His body was having a type of seizure. He would wake out of it in odd places such as having driven to an airport or park across town. They were able to medicate him to help in this matter.

 

[AlishaK]

Are you sure it is DID? Only asking because a friend of mine used to lose time and it was determined that it was from a brain injury that he had suffered in a car accident. His body was having a type of seizure. He would wake out of it in odd places such as having driven to an airport or park across town. They were able to medicate him to help in this matter.

Yes, my therapist it is DID. She sees switches in her office that are fleeting, but she catches it and asks me if I remember what were were just talking about, often I don't. She has also spent sessions with my younger selves, mostly a five year old. I have a lot of the typical signs. Most DID is covert and only 6% has an obvious presentation. If my therapist and two of the people I lived with in my twenties hadn't seen other parts with their own sense of self, it might be explained in a different way.

 

[Skywatcher]

Yes, my therapist it is DID. She sees switches in her office that are fleeting, but she catches it and asks me if I remember what were were just talking about, often I don't. She has also spent sessions with my younger selves, mostly a five year old. I have a lot of the typical signs. Most DID is covert and only 6% has an obvious presentation. If my therapist and two of the people I lived with in my twenties hadn't seen other parts with their own sense of self, it might be explained in a different way.

Alright. Maybe the letters don’t work because your parts are too little to read? I’m sorry that you are losing big chunks of time.

 

[Sideways]

I also have a phobia of other parts because I don't have any interest in remember more trauma.

This is a bit like saying to someone: “Let’s be friends, just don’t tell me anything about yourself because I don’t want to know...”.

Doesn’t work like that;)

 

[Ronin]

I also have a phobia of other parts

Imagine the one they must have of you, a stranger who would let them do all the hard work through years and now does not even talk to them. Shudder.

.... Slightly comical just to get the stress off, because seriously, what is the worst that can happen if you get to know them?

You would have conscious knowledge (or, at times at least) of something your body already remembers, and you react on. Is it that bad thing?

One can assume there also is not much horrifying to wreck chaos now, given they *talk to your T, and to you about existing at all, and let you write it on the internet*. That is a lot talking that could be blocked. That could be blanked out of life, months or years of life... You wouln’t know even the much you do *now*, because you knowing would be in the way of their doing their job.

From where I am standing, they consider at least some areas of your life safe enough...? It could be a lot worse if they *were* busy hiding from you and hiding you.

 

[whiteraven]

I haven't "officially" met some of my insiders; they have come out to others, though, so I know they exist.

I have learned a LOT as my ability to communicate with all my insiders has greatly improved over the years. I *have* learned about some trauma I was not aware of, but I've learned so much about each individual. I try a bunch of different things to communicate: I read childrens' books out loud, watch kids' movies, color. If I kind of know something someone likes, I incorporate it into my life. I also talk to them and let them know I want to meet and talk with them.

What I discovered is that the better I know my insiders, the less likely they will be to take over the body and the less likely I will be to lose time. I am almost completely co-conscious with most of them now.

 

[Cypress]

I have found that as your parts learn that they can trust you not to shut them down or try to get rid of them you will become more aware of them. Also as you get over your phobia of the memories, and develop a better tolerance for the feelings you will notice them more too. It’s slow painstaking work. I can’t say I am there yet but I’m moving in the right direction.

Every day sit down and try to look inside, and mentally ask what is going on, how is everyone feeling? One day you might get an answer. Hang in there - it gets better

 

[AlishaK]

I haven't "officially" met some of my insiders; they have come out to others, though, so I know they exist.

I have learned a LOT as my ability to communicate with all my insiders has greatly improved over the years. I *have* learned about some trauma I was not aware of, but I've learned so much about each individual. I try a bunch of different things to communicate: I read childrens' books out loud, watch kids' movies, color. If I kind of know something someone likes, I incorporate it into my life. I also talk to them and let them know I want to meet and talk with them.

What I discovered is that the better I know my insiders, the less likely they will be to take over the body and the less likely I will be to lose time. I am almost completely co-conscious with most of them now.

How long did this process take for you?

 

[whiteraven]

How long did this process take for you?

Well...it's really an ongoing process. I got away from the worry that I needed to get to know everybody by a certain time and just started to accept things as they happened. Some I got to know pretty quickly; I am still learning about others. It doesn't seem nearly as critical now as it once did.

One of the things I did was to focus on getting to know the ones that really needed me - a couple of the kids, for example - and those that were creating havoc for me. I got to know them pretty quickly because I needed to.

 

[TruthSeeker]

I haven't "officially" met some of my insiders; they have come out to others, though, so I know they exist.

I have learned a LOT as my ability to communicate with all my insiders has greatly improved over the years. I *have* learned about some trauma I was not aware of, but I've learned so much about each individual. I try a bunch of different things to communicate: I read childrens' books out loud, watch kids' movies, color. If I kind of know something someone likes, I incorporate it into my life. I also talk to them and let them know I want to meet and talk with them.

What I discovered is that the better I know my insiders, the less likely they will be to take over the body and the less likely I will be to lose time. I am almost completely co-conscious with most of them now.

@whiteraven I second that focus on getting to know them......what drives them.....what are their fears.....and communication regularly so they feel acknowledged and appreciated (this makes a world of difference for me.....and facilitates future communciation).

 

[Sharon7788]

My therapist helped me realize I was phobic of my parts when we started doing dissociative table work. I didn’t have good communication but it started to come over time as I started talking to them. I think I talked to them every day for a few weeks before I got a response. It helped to tell the littles that we were going to watch a cartoon together and then sit down and watch the whole show even when I didn’t feel them. After doing that, my 8 year old happily reported to my therapist that I was letting her watch tv even though she hadn’t let me know that she was watching. As I did things for them they started to learn that I didn’t hate them and started to slowly come out more. My therapist suggested buying my favorite childhood foods for them and they liked that idea too. It gets easier and even though it feels like you’re talking to nobody, they are listening and it is healing for them! ?