Relationship So Excited, And Proud Of Him..!!!!!

[justme]

So after about 2 months of absolutely no contact electronically, and even longer seeing him he text me this morning. I was so surprised and excited to see his name pop up on my screen. Contact was brief--only about 3 texts back and forth--but he contacted me unprompted. That is a HUGE step in a good direction if you ask me!!

So it looks like he is actually going into a program. <--Actually going instead of just half heartily talking about it. I am so excited and proud of him i can hardly contain myself. I don't have any details really, but didn't want to overload him with communication this AM. I of course told him that I am still here for him and if he needs anything along the way that I would be there.

That's it....just had to share with someone (people) who actually care and understand. ( :) !!!!!!!!! (: )

......I am so proud of him.

 

[Iam]

That's AWESOME JustMe! He is very lucky to have you in his life. I can tell you that just knowing someone who cares is there when I need to reach out makes a big difference.

 

[Nicolette]

That's great JustMe. The contact must have been so exciting for you and to hear he is going into therapy is great. Obviously you have been very good and respecting his need for space which is also commendable. Fingers crossed for you!

 

[amethist]

Nice one justme. You must have had a smile on your face for hours after that. Good for him going into the program, it takes time to get to where he is now, so well done to him for getting to this point.

Wishing you both a bright future.

Amethist.

 

[justme]

I have been in a great mood all day today. :) I really want to know more about the program like what kind/when it starts/how long it is etc....but I don't want to overload him and possibly cause him to shut down or close up again. I think there was a giant step made today for both him and for us. I don't want to do anything that would cause either to back track. It is going to be hard, but I think I am just going to let him reach out to me when he feels comfortable for the time being.

I will post updates as they come available!! Keep those fingers crossed!!!! :):)

 

[Nicolette]

It is going to be hard, but I think I am just going to let him reach out to me when he feels comfortable for the time being.

Great thinking!

 

[Jawn]

I have my fingers AND toes crossed for you justme.

Jawn

 

[Learning123]

That's excellent news, good for him! And well done to you for staying so strong throughout the no contact period.

I wish you both all the best throughout this journey.

 

[justme]

Well I am going to be honest here. There was no communication from *him* during the 2 or so months. I did text him once (as I have posted this before) that I couldn't wait around for him if he wasn't going to get the help he needed, and anther time a few weeks later just saying that I didn't abandon him completely and that I was still there for him. So although I did break down and contact him I don't think I was being overly annoying or anything like that.

I really wish I had more information about this program he is getting into. BUT...I am going to be super strong this time and just let him contact me as he feels comfortable. I figure he is making an effort and getting into a program is a really huge step for him, so I need to make just as much of an effort on this end. (I think this is turning into a self pep talk to not contact him...well whatever works, right!!!)

 

[amethist]

Yes justme, what ever works for you best, is the way to go with this. So you need to post to remind yourself how you need to handle this for the best, then do that as often as you need to. He has contacted you and will do so again, when he feels able to.

Until then, hang in there, stay strong and keep posting.

Amethist

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

[QUOTE I really want to know more about the program like what kind/when it starts/how long it is etc....but I don't want to overload him and possibly cause him to shut down or close up again. I think there was a giant step made today for both him and for us. I don't want to do anything that would cause either to back track. It is going to be hard, but I think I am just going to let him reach out to me when he feels comfortable for the time being.

I will post updates as they come available!! Keep those fingers crossed!!!! :):)[/QUOTE]

Hello justme, that's a massive achievement and it's natural that you want to know the details of the program. It may be that he can't remember the details of the program or even when he's starting. Perhaps he will get written details and maybe it will be easier for him to share that with you.
I'm feeling your joy and keeping fingers & toes crossed. Look forward to hearing your updates.
Take care.

 

[justme]

So I hate to say this, but it's true. The excitement has worn off and I am back to being stressed out about the situation. I mean stressed out. This yo-yo effect is really starting to take its toll.