I just came back here because I was thinking about this topic after reading it. Survivor said:
but I don't think Survivor your words were meant poorly, it's the word 'concept' you referenced that is flawed for anything but a negative answer. That is, repeat the unrepeatable, that which we don't know how we survived, and survived with brokenness or damage, or die today, when death (technically) shouldn't really be our choice to make (presuming if it is, it's active or passive suicide). And mostly, even if death isn't SI, we are (fortunately), not in a position to have to give up all that is good,
or be forced or required to repeat all the bad.
Reliving everything exactly the same
As Eve said ^^, if everything were exactly the same, we would not be, or be able to be, who we are today.
My mom, without ptsd but much suffering and loss, who never cried 'for' herself publically (and only referenced it to me as doing so privately when times were very bad), once cried openly with me near her deathbed that she didn't think she could go through again what she did, if she had to (for his sake, I am sure), despite how much she loved my dad, and that things worked out, and he was the love of her life, and vice versa, and they had great joy. Though I was a lot younger than now, I did say, "Well that's ok mom, because you don't have to", and she said, "That's right! :) ". That's not how life works. What Friday said is all that's relevant:
I think, tbh- that it's actually 'progress' to be able to give one's self the kind of self-compassion that says, this stuff was really unsurvivable, or really bad. But hey, it's ok. That's the essence of grounding. And now being here, good can come, too. That's part of recovery, and hope, and rebuilding, and choosing, and gratitude, and grace.
Hugs to you,
@hope4us . And all. Because we could use them. :hug:
