This is a hard one to disclose. I am dealing with this every day for the last few years and will for another few half way through one in Pa. Sometimes and in my case these vehicles for good at times are misused for malicious and revenge purposes....in my case for making flip comments about my abusive stepfather and for asking for my property and medical helps at her house where my stepdad lived (at the time) now deceased.
I was always the black sheep of the family always blamed for my own abuse for being a " difficult child" according to my Mom which I disputed in my life and it was untrue. Even if it were true no woman child male female or animal deserves the depraved treatment I got by my stepfather including indecent assault and acc to a detective worse in the midst of the PFA dramas.
I myself got a temp pfa on my Stepfather for all the good legal reasons one should have one in PA. My Mother made vague accusations of me being bossy and making them " look bad". In other words the dirty laundry was getting out and she said this was a "betrayal" and besmirchment on the family name. The flip comment I made was about my Stepfather drinking and driving w my sister and I in the car as a 50 something teacher to which she enabled his willfull criminal behavior saying it was "only a sip" it was an open container while driving she asked him to stop driving he refused in a crass manner. He had a combover and was wearing a white tank top wife beater. This was and is her prizew.
I could really use true friends I don't know if this is the place to find them?
I don't know how to relate to ppl now and I must look over my shoulder all the time. I had bad layers and was let down by the system meant to protect me and by my family too drastically.
I am not guilty. I admit my mistakes. These things are easy to misuse actually esp in central Pa. but maybe across the country. The standard of proof is much lower and I was up there all alone w an attorney at odds with me because I cross filed myself against my Stepdad, by myself an amazing feat while I had an attorney told him I would do this and he said go ahead but I guess underestimated me as most people do....I think my Mother did. She blasted me about my childhood and even allegedly sticking my tongue out in the 80s. This flew but admitted child abuse was minimized as that was " 28 years ago" by the judge.
I think about this all the time feel on the defensive feel broken and even long for my Mother who herself is an admitted (to me but never in public) abuser at least psychologically. It escalated to physical in 2020 prior to her doing this. I mentioned I was entitled to one on her. I think she is a Narcissist but I think I am codependent and don't know how to live without a family even one as damaging as mine. I did not commit abuse under Pa or any statutes and in fact she said I never threatened her but she worried about my potentials to become violent? And with this I got a Pfa a damaged reputation and trauma for life. Help?
Oh and she quasi and or maybe did stalk me in a car on Valentines day i think trying to entrap me into a ICC a violation of my PfA with her after 1 and half years of observing this thing and after she sabotaged my medical care and forced me to sue her for my own property she held. And she says she is the "victim". Police had told me three times before the PFA I would prob have to sue her for my property. All I wanted was reason love and kindness. All I got was kicked and shoved into the pavement. L. Enf felt bad for me were more kind than the lawyers.
I was drastically wronged. I don't know how to recover. I want to. Someone mentioned growing up in a cult. I can relate in ways in how I was talked to. My crime was not a real crime but one of treason in my Moms mind against the family whom is all perfect and above reproach no matter their actions and I must be put on trial for minutia from the 80s and assaults that happened to me then and in 2020...though at their home. My stepdad died recently. My Mom did the thing in the car one month after this. I thought long ago my stepfathers death might release me from abuse. It didn't.
I was always the black sheep of the family always blamed for my own abuse for being a " difficult child" according to my Mom which I disputed in my life and it was untrue. Even if it were true no woman child male female or animal deserves the depraved treatment I got by my stepfather including indecent assault and acc to a detective worse in the midst of the PFA dramas.
I myself got a temp pfa on my Stepfather for all the good legal reasons one should have one in PA. My Mother made vague accusations of me being bossy and making them " look bad". In other words the dirty laundry was getting out and she said this was a "betrayal" and besmirchment on the family name. The flip comment I made was about my Stepfather drinking and driving w my sister and I in the car as a 50 something teacher to which she enabled his willfull criminal behavior saying it was "only a sip" it was an open container while driving she asked him to stop driving he refused in a crass manner. He had a combover and was wearing a white tank top wife beater. This was and is her prizew.
I could really use true friends I don't know if this is the place to find them?
I don't know how to relate to ppl now and I must look over my shoulder all the time. I had bad layers and was let down by the system meant to protect me and by my family too drastically.
I am not guilty. I admit my mistakes. These things are easy to misuse actually esp in central Pa. but maybe across the country. The standard of proof is much lower and I was up there all alone w an attorney at odds with me because I cross filed myself against my Stepdad, by myself an amazing feat while I had an attorney told him I would do this and he said go ahead but I guess underestimated me as most people do....I think my Mother did. She blasted me about my childhood and even allegedly sticking my tongue out in the 80s. This flew but admitted child abuse was minimized as that was " 28 years ago" by the judge.
I think about this all the time feel on the defensive feel broken and even long for my Mother who herself is an admitted (to me but never in public) abuser at least psychologically. It escalated to physical in 2020 prior to her doing this. I mentioned I was entitled to one on her. I think she is a Narcissist but I think I am codependent and don't know how to live without a family even one as damaging as mine. I did not commit abuse under Pa or any statutes and in fact she said I never threatened her but she worried about my potentials to become violent? And with this I got a Pfa a damaged reputation and trauma for life. Help?
Oh and she quasi and or maybe did stalk me in a car on Valentines day i think trying to entrap me into a ICC a violation of my PfA with her after 1 and half years of observing this thing and after she sabotaged my medical care and forced me to sue her for my own property she held. And she says she is the "victim". Police had told me three times before the PFA I would prob have to sue her for my property. All I wanted was reason love and kindness. All I got was kicked and shoved into the pavement. L. Enf felt bad for me were more kind than the lawyers.
I was drastically wronged. I don't know how to recover. I want to. Someone mentioned growing up in a cult. I can relate in ways in how I was talked to. My crime was not a real crime but one of treason in my Moms mind against the family whom is all perfect and above reproach no matter their actions and I must be put on trial for minutia from the 80s and assaults that happened to me then and in 2020...though at their home. My stepdad died recently. My Mom did the thing in the car one month after this. I thought long ago my stepfathers death might release me from abuse. It didn't.
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