Sufferer Need Friends and Community

[CazzTheGeek]

Hello, My name is Cazz and I have been diagnosed with CPTSD and Depression. I'm reaching out to find friendship and community. I've had four years of therapy and just signed up for more. I have a few close friends but no one fully understands what I go through. I have no biological family and my marriage is crumbling. I've never felt so lost.

 

[parrotthepolly]

Welcome! Usually people who haven't been through something or have similar symptoms even through something else, it's hard to imagine what it's like but it's great you still have them. Also therapy doesn't always work with everyone or can take a long time.

 

[arfie]

from nerd to geek, welcome to the forum, cazz. ya got me flashing back to the turn of the 90's when i was riding the near-divorce roller coaster. it was the first of the separations hubs and i have taken since our wedding day in 1980. we haven't considered divorce since that first separation but? ? ? i even talked to a lawyer during that first. since then we have decided that we are family and family is bigger than a shared address.

in my own recovery from child sex trafficking, i believe those separations were essential to my recovery. even without the ptsd psycho snot knots, love gets both messy and confusing. with the ptsd psycho snot knots, love was an ewey gooey cesspool. the separations from daily exposure to the love of my life made the psychotherapy MUCH easier. the active therapy was a critical piece and talking about wtf was going on was MUCH easier over the phone. it's even easier by text.

dunno if any of that fits your case, or not. just sharing in hopes of helping you feel less alone. in my own recovery, the sense of community and friendship was another critical piece. not even a partner as great as the one i tied up with can be my everything. it takes a village to live a healthy life.

 

[DSkyler]

Welcome. I’ve been here a short time and have found it a useful and welcoming place. People understand the struggles and inequity of the suffering. Friends and family can help and support to a point but for me it’s been a relief to find a community of fellow sufferers to bear witness and provide company alongside any healing journey.

 

[supplepeaches]

Hey cazz! You can call me Peaches for now. I also am looking for community and friendship. Was diagnosed with GAD and Major Depressive Disorder 3 years ago and diagnosed with CPTSD this year once I finally got connected with a psychotherapist that works for me. Still unpacking how I got here in the first place! If you need anything, feel free to reach out!

 

[CazzTheGeek]

I can not tell you all how much hearing from this community has helped me today. Thank you.

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the community

 

[Survivor3]

Welcome cazz .

 

[CazzTheGeek]

from nerd to geek, welcome to the forum, cazz. ya got me flashing back to the turn of the 90's when i was riding the near-divorce roller coaster. it was the first of the separations hubs and i have taken since our wedding day in 1980. we haven't considered divorce since that first separation but? ? ? i even talked to a lawyer during that first. since then we have decided that we are family and family is bigger than a shared address.

in my own recovery from child sex trafficking, i believe those separations were essential to my recovery. even without the ptsd psycho snot knots, love gets both messy and confusing. with the ptsd psycho snot knots, love was an ewey gooey cesspool. the separations from daily exposure to the love of my life made the psychotherapy MUCH easier. the active therapy was a critical piece and talking about wtf was going on was MUCH easier over the phone. it's even easier by text.

dunno if any of that fits your case, or not. just sharing in hopes of helping you feel less alone. in my own recovery, the sense of community and friendship was another critical piece. not even a partner as great as the one i tied up with can be my everything. it takes a village to live a healthy life.

My husband asked for a break last night, we talked about it like adults and set boundaries. I'm staying at a friends. I know now there's a chance I'm going to lose him. Any advice?

 

[Susan Jane]

Hello, My name is Cazz and I have been diagnosed with CPTSD and Depression. I'm reaching out to find friendship and community. I've had four years of therapy and just signed up for more. I have a few close friends but no one fully understands what I go through. I have no biological family and my marriage is crumbling. I've never felt so lost.

Hello Cazz, I understand. It is hard to live with the symptoms and difficult to explain them to friends. I am now in a bad episode and I have days where I cannot function and I am learning to tell people I trust. That is tricky because if you feel rejected or unheard it makes things worse. I need people, to navigate through these really bad spells. I have little family and cannot burden my child, as my mom did that to me. It is a vicious circle. I have been through a divorce and raised my son alone. Survival mode. I have empathy for your troubles. This forum and the understanding and support from its members is a heaven sent. You are not alone ‍, Welcome to the forum.

 

[arfie]

if you love a thing, let it go. if it comes back to you, it is yours. if it does not come back to you, it never was yours.

let go and let god. face the fear.

hope healing happens here.

 

[CazzTheGeek]

if you love a thing, let it go. if it comes back to you, it is yours. if it does not come back to you, it never was yours.

let go and let god. face the fear.

hope healing happens here.

Thank you.