I'm glad too hear he's being super respectful. That's great. There's only one thing that you both need to do for this temporary phase to work, and that's for you both to be civil and respectful to each other. And I understand that there's alot of history but it's only temporary until you find your own place. (How long could that be? Do you know roughly?) I'm not surprised you've been crying, alot to deal with, also necessary to grieve what's happened.
Finding my own place is going to be tricky, my friend will be giving me his spare room but it won't be available for 3-? months. His in a very slow process of breaking up with his girlfriend.
Ok, gotcha. Are you in the UK cazz? Some charities do reduced rates for counselling/therapy privately. But i also totally understand that your trying to save money to move.
I am in the UK. My therapy will be through a NHS organisation. I'm getting a call Wednesday regarding counselling and wait times. I'm hoping it's sooner rather than later for my sanity.
Is that iapt? OK, fingers crossed for Wednesday, let us know how you get on.
They're called Health in Mind, been very supportive so far. I will let you know how I get on Wednesday.
Hey @Survivor3, hope you're doing well? I just spoke to Health in Mind. So I've been rejected for counselling however my representative (a CBT Therapist) is challenging the decision. She's also sending me some details of some private therapists in my area who offer affordable counselling.They're called Health in Mind, been very supportive so far. I will let you know how I get on Wednesday.
That's great news @CazzTheGeek . Don't worry about the first refusal. It happens alot, see what happens with the appeal. I was rejected from iapt 4 times and eventually went private, and glad I did because therapy on the NHS is only for a short time whereas trauma people (us) need longer anyway generally.
Therapy my first time round was so rushed and now I'm ready for it, I have to wait. I understand why though, so private could be best. Just waiting for the email with the potential list of therapists and hopefully I'll be able to afford it, even if it's just once a month.
Yes!!!
I am going through a fairly identical experience. My partner and I of 9.5 years broke up in March, and we have been living together since. We are finally packing to move out by the end of the month, and everything got bad. The PTSD, the anxiety, the SI, all of it. I’m using every coping mechanism under the sun, but it doesn’t feel like enough. I keep thinking to myself when I feel that way, “It’s not forever, just for now.” I hope that’s true for us both.
