What Does Your Inner Child Need Right Now?

[tch75]

Peace....

 

[221177]

221177...I hope you didn't think I was being negative about your topic. I would love to find my inner child. I think it is a completion of the healing process from early trauma. Can I live without that contact? Yes, but I don't think it is as settled as having a relationship with my little girl. Thanks for bringing up the topic, I hear so few on this subject!!;)

Not at all - equally just didn't want to come across like I was saying everyone 'should' have contact with theirs, or 'should' do anything at all! Polite semantics hehe ;-) xx

 

[Brontie]

My inner child is now a typical two or three year old; she can still get a little sad and often looks for a cuddle and a soft blanket and a teddy bear. When she feels like this, I take time to explain how far we have come and that we are getting stronger and stronger every day.

I still remember the pain in my chest that we shared. It’s gone now and I consider myself very lucky that I was able to work out what was going on and work to heal us both.

 

[Deleted member 6617]

She needs acknowledgment and affirmations of love. She needs to be held and understood. She needs me!

 

[Brontie]

You may like to try and find this book -

Recovery of Your Inner Child by Lucia Capacchione

The Inner Child lives within all of us, it’s the part of us that feels emotions and is playful intuitive and creative. Usually hidden under our grown-up personas, the Inner Child holds the key to intimacy in relationships physical and emotional well-being, recovery from addictions, and the creativity and wisdom of our inner selves.

 

[Powder]

Along these lines, I have heard that we need to all, not only those with PTSD, nurture our own inner child. For example, enjoy activities that you simply enjoy without labeling them "childish." My Dad is in his 50's and he likes to go to the Disney parks. He used to allow his wife to deem that too childish for a vacation, but they discovered they actually love it so who cares?
For me, it was enjoying the Harry Potter books and movies. My inner child enjoyed the creativity and fantasy. When I had a bad day, I would curl up and watch one of the films. This is just one aspect of this idea of the inner child. Not the whole story, of course.

 

[Powder]

I remember a short, very short, story by Sandra Cisneros, called "Eleven." Google it if you're interested. It is a very good explanation of the inner child and it's vulnerability in one page or two. I can instantly relate to the character, Rachel, however, nothing quite like this happened to me...I think most people feel some kind of vulnerability at school.
Warning: if you had a teacher or school-inflicted trauma, you might want to consider not reading it without preparation or printing it and taking it to therapy where you will have support to read it with someone.

 

[Chris Mepham]

Hi all, Firstly, I'm new here - I came across this excellent forum whilst searching out information on another matter. I have read some of these very touching points, I have been writing a blog under a pseudonym because of the experiences I suffered as a child. It was only when i was talking to a friend on Friday that I realised one of the problems going on in my life is about a trapped 7 year old little boy who desperately needs some love, support and real attention. The thing is, I don't know how to communicate with him; does anyone have any ideas? I would value any information or experience anyone can provide.

 

[Tinyflame]

Chris the people here are so informed, they can help you. I'm the last one to be able to offer a concrete solution, but I would recommend 'being truly yourself' (whether yourself feels like '7' or '7+x..' ;)) Unless you are 'acting out negatively' like a 7 year old (and even that you can recognize, accept and address/ adjust- usually by meeting the needs that you would offer to any 7 year old, and cutting yourself some slack), maybe you have to 'do some time at 7', to complete the circle, if that makes any sense. Maybe we all do (like that short story 'Eleven' said above). Maybe you are 'ok' (-I am sure you are) just as you are now. Maybe we have to accept (all) of what we feel.

Peace to you.

 

[Brontie]

Chris Mepham,

I'm sure we all have something to offer based on our own understanding of the inner child. So speaking for myself, I believe it can certainly be nurtured. No doubt everyone will have their own way of doing this. I found internal dialoguing very useful in that I silently acknowledged my inner child and promised to take care of her from now on. I continued this caring dialogue off and on until I began to feel a gentle shift in my attitude towards myself.

It’s worth remembering that according to Jung’s archetypes, we also have an internal Parent, Teacher, Protector etc. and we can also communicate with each of them with a T’s help.

 

[Sethe]

She needs:

stability
security
warmth
hope.

 

[livergirl70]

My inner child needs

to understand that no-one is going to comfort me and to stop waiting for it to happen